Why do teenagers seem to think that guy/girl relationships should be "explosive"?

KZWestern · 08-26-2005, 10:36 AM

I have always wondered that. I used to think that way too...

I don't know if any of you read the paper, but sometimes I read a column by Carolin Hax. People write in and ask her questions, mostly about relationships. The person who wrote in was talking about marriage and how she truly liked this guy alot, but thought she could have a "fireworks" relationship with another guy if they got married. I really appreciated Carolin's response... basicly she stated that if marriage and guy/girl relationships was suppose to be warm and fuzzys all the time then staining decks and weeding gardens must be a pretty exciting thing to do.

I think us teenagers need to remember that love isn't a feeling, it's a choice, and that once all the excitment is worn out you're stuck with a human being with faults and issues.... We act as if relationships are disposable, and they are, but they shouldn't be unless something serious is going on like abuse. IMO, when we choose to love someone of the opposit sex and when we choose to give them a part of ourselves both emotionally and physically, this should be done in all seriousness with full knowledge that the person wont always make you happy. In other words, I think we should wait until we get married... and then get married for the right reason.

hossluva · 08-26-2005, 04:34 PM

Whoah, kudos for you!!!! I totally agree! Well written!

arabgirl15 · 08-26-2005, 04:50 PM

Kudos!! I totally agree 100%!

takibimegami · 08-26-2005, 05:38 PM

you hve some very good points!!

Magzinator · 08-26-2005, 07:42 PM

Kudos!!! Agreed 100%!!!! I grew up with a sister who made some bad choices so I kinda got a head start on see that a relationship with a guy when your only a young teen ( like me lol I still sometimes wish I could have a bf but I don't REALLY need one so yeah ). But I see these little sixth graders who are all " OMG I NEED a bf so fridden bad it's not even funny!" Then you see them in 8th or 9th grade and they're pregnant or already have a baby.

Emzalss@2580 · 08-27-2005, 02:51 AM

I agree!!!
I didn't want a boyfriend till at least year ten either, i said to myself when i started in year seven that i wouldn't have one and i managed it. Now it's year ten so....lets see what happens.

cowgirl, ohio · 08-27-2005, 06:39 AM

Right on!!!!!!!!!!!

binkygirl · 08-27-2005, 06:54 AM

i agree too well written

KZWestern · 08-27-2005, 09:33 AM

Thanks guys, I'm glad there are other teenagers with the same view on this issue!

ilovehorses67 · 08-27-2005, 01:41 PM

I'm glad that there are some people in this world with some sense! I am 16 an haven't ever had a boyfriend, and i haven't really ever wanted one. most people just call me weird.

08-26-2005, 10:36 AM	#1
KZWestern Senior Member+ Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 3,752 Images: 50	Why do teenagers seem to think that guy/girl relationships should be "explosive"? I have always wondered that. I used to think that way too... I don't know if any of you read the paper, but sometimes I read a column by Carolin Hax. People write in and ask her questions, mostly about relationships. The person who wrote in was talking about marriage and how she truly liked this guy alot, but thought she could have a "fireworks" relationship with another guy if they got married. I really appreciated Carolin's response... basicly she stated that if marriage and guy/girl relationships was suppose to be warm and fuzzys all the time then staining decks and weeding gardens must be a pretty exciting thing to do. I think us teenagers need to remember that love isn't a feeling, it's a choice, and that once all the excitment is worn out you're stuck with a human being with faults and issues.... We act as if relationships are disposable, and they are, but they shouldn't be unless something serious is going on like abuse. IMO, when we choose to love someone of the opposit sex and when we choose to give them a part of ourselves both emotionally and physically, this should be done in all seriousness with full knowledge that the person wont always make you happy. In other words, I think we should wait until we get married... and then get married for the right reason. __________________ Kristie + Isis = Krisis!!!!!!!!! Isis - slaughter rescue Grattitude - Swedish Warmblood Emma - Hanoverian Last edited by KZWestern; 08-27-2005 at 09:32 AM.

08-26-2005, 04:50 PM	#3
arabgirl15 Senior Member+ Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: SW Minnesota Posts: 3,223 Images: 69 Blog Entries: 16	Kudos!! I totally agree 100%! __________________ Monica To be believed, make the truth unbelievable. Napoleon Bonaparte

08-26-2005, 07:42 PM	#5
Magzinator Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Somewhere... I can't remember exactly Posts: 1,016 Images: 31	Kudos!!! Agreed 100%!!!! I grew up with a sister who made some bad choices so I kinda got a head start on see that a relationship with a guy when your only a young teen ( like me lol I still sometimes wish I could have a bf but I don't REALLY need one so yeah ). But I see these little sixth graders who are all " OMG I NEED a bf so fridden bad it's not even funny!" Then you see them in 8th or 9th grade and they're pregnant or already have a baby. __________________ Maggie Elizabeth Yeeeeppppp

08-27-2005, 02:51 AM	#6
Emzalss@2580 Senior Member+ Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: England Posts: 634 Images: 73 Blog Entries: 4	I agree!!! I didn't want a boyfriend till at least year ten either, i said to myself when i started in year seven that i wouldn't have one and i managed it. Now it's year ten so....lets see what happens. __________________ Be careful who's advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it.

08-27-2005, 06:39 AM	#7
cowgirl, ohio Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Little Hocking, Ohio (southeast) Posts: 401 Images: 44 Blog Entries: 4	Right on!!!!!!!!!!! __________________ Head Up ~ Heels Down On a wing and a Prayer PBandJ!!!!! Peachtree Buster Cowgirl Up! - Turn & Burn ~Jessi~

08-26-2005, 04:34 PM	#2
hossluva Senior Member+ Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,950 Images: 26 Blog Entries: 1	Whoah, kudos for you!!!! I totally agree! Well written!

08-26-2005, 05:38 PM	#4
takibimegami Full Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Turner Kansas (KCK) and Clinton Missouri Posts: 133 Images: 21 Blog Entries: 7	you hve some very good points!!

08-27-2005, 06:54 AM	#8
binkygirl Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: I live in Brisbane qld Posts: 1,009 Images: 25	i agree too well written __________________ you can ask a stallion, you can tell a gelding, but you must discuss it with a mare!!!!

08-27-2005, 09:33 AM	#9
KZWestern Senior Member+ Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 3,752 Images: 50	Thanks guys, I'm glad there are other teenagers with the same view on this issue! __________________ Kristie + Isis = Krisis!!!!!!!!! Isis - slaughter rescue Grattitude - Swedish Warmblood Emma - Hanoverian

08-27-2005, 01:41 PM	#10
ilovehorses67 Full Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: nc Posts: 47 Images: 5	I'm glad that there are some people in this world with some sense! I am 16 an haven't ever had a boyfriend, and i haven't really ever wanted one. most people just call me weird. __________________ Childhood is short,maturity is forever!