What is it with adults who are these ages and older still living at home, paying nothing towards the rent/mortgage/utilities/food, and many times the parents are also paying these "kids" car payments and car insurance???
And the "adults" and here I am using the term VERY loosely, don't have any gratitude, or even respect for their parents who are still toting their load well after the "kid" should be out on their own.
Two days ago I was talking to my best friend in AL, and she told me to hang on a minute, I hear her go out the door and tell her daughter to bring back all of those towels she just toted out. Her 22 year old starts screaming at her! Lynne told her I am not providing all those people towels to use, they need to get their own. The daughter had 5 or 6 people with her, all in mid to late 20'sl, none of whom have anything better to do on a Wed afternoon than go swimming, because everyone of them too? Living off a parent(s). Lynne does not have a dryer, so everything washed has to be carried out back, down steps, hung out and then brought back in. Neither of the "kids" will help with this. Ever. If she asks them to do something, they fuss about it, or say they will do it, but don't. They don't do dishes, cleaning, nothing.
Her daughter works at a Waffle House, but has a girlfriend, not the same one I wrote about before that was laid up at my friends, but helps with no bills either, or around house. She has a new girlfriend, who has NO ambition to get a job at all.
Lynne is disabled, knees and back have arthritis and she is on SS. Barely makes 800 a month. No food stamps either. Only saving grace is the house is paid for. Her car has no air conditioning, (broke) and the windows won't go down, so you can appreciate in the AL heat, only 100 miles from Gulf Coast, it is HOT. She rarely runs the AC in the house much, because she can't afford the bill.
AND this morning, I was talking to her on the phone, and she needed to get a piece of paper to clean up some dog mess and goes to bathroom to get some. Her 31 year old son starts screaming at her about coming in the bathroom, AND then goes into LR and starts cussing at her because HE doesn't want to smell dog mess first thing in the morning.
Lynne got a little male dog a couple of years ago. This ungrateful "kid" (over 300 pounds) brought home a female and wanted a litter of puppies. You guessed it, still have 2 of 5, would have had 3 but it died of parvo (after shots too.) One dog got hit this month and died while with him, and off leash, which Lynne had warned him about over and over. He finds a puppy in middle of road, and brings it home 2 days ago. So 4 dogs, and they will go outside in little fence, but it was overnight.
He goes 3 hours or less 3 nights a week to welding class, from 5 pm to 8 pm. Works IF he can find someone to work for. Lynne totes him too.
She has another son, almost 40 now, who is a welder. Makes 35 dollars an hour, plus 65 a day per diem on top of that. You guessed it, until the last year? He was living there too. AND not paying even 25 a week on the utilities, or helping to buy groceries. And he cussed and screamed at her too when he didn't get his way. And before Lynne got approved for SS, which took over 2 years, this son, when she told him he was going to have to help out with the bills, since at that point the 31 year old was working and was helping? He moved out to live with his daddy and sponge off him.
Of 4 kids, only one is self supporting with a family, house, decent cars, job, etc.
If you can't tote your own load, and expect someone else to? You could at least be grateful and do something to help around the house. But if someone else is having to tote you?
You aren't an adult.