[arabianlvr87]

I'm afraid I made a BIG mistake.
Several nights ago on the phone, my BF said "I love you." now, yes, it is sweet, but honestly. What are the chances of finding love in HS?
Last night, he said it again. I was "in the zone" so I said it back! Yes, I really do like him, but I know I don't love him. At least, not yet.
I told my friend, and we took a looooong walk down memory. Personally, I got bored, but I just don't want him getting the wrong ideas.

Any advice/coments on this?

[KZWestern]

I agree.... I don't think we younger people can comprehend what it means to truly love like what marriage is all about. I think it happens as maturity happens, and that isn't until pro after college!! I had a boy friend once... and it turned out to be a disaster. Now I am never EVER dating until I know what it means to truly love. I am also a Christian, so my standards are high. Especially after I messed up... now I'm back on track!

[arabianlvr87]

My thoughts exactly.

[SunBun]

KZWestern-I'm only 17 and I believe that I love Anthony (boyfriend). I think that love can come in high school-not just after college. I know TONS of people who married their "high school sweet heart." Just because you're younger doesn't mean you don't know what it's like to truly love someone. It's also a feeling you can't describe, but you'll know it when it happens and you meet the right person lol

As for saying it to your boyfriend, don't worry about it. Something like 60% of the population say "I love you" without really meaning it!! lol If you're that concerned, talk to him about it and say that you're not ready for an 'I love you' relationship yet. Let him down easy lol Good luck.

[arabianlvr87]

Of course it's not impossible. I have one older friend who was married at 18 to her HS sweetheart. They have an awesome marriage.

I'm just saying... that of only going out for 3 weeks, I don't think he knows what love is.

[Emzalss@2580]

I think people are as mature as they want to be.

[tiffanym]

im 22 and i feel the same way about my BF.

[minilove]

i agree with EMzalss@2580, you never know when love with find you. When your in love you will just know....

[Elia]

The biggest mistake of my life was when I told my ex, "I love you more then the water in the sea, and more then all the land." His simple response was, "Whoa, that's a lot." We've been apart since last March, though.

I regret it more then anything in the world. You're using your conscience! That's a good thing.

If you ever feel the need to break up with him, DO NOT, absolutely DO NOT let him down easy. Letting someone down easy gives them an opportunity to suck you back in to liking them. If you ever feel the need to break up, and he doesn't respect the decision -- he doesn't love you. I mean, he's not married to you. He has no right to hang on to you if you want to let go.

People should really be careful w/ how they tell people what they feel. It leads to some not very nice things that you're stuck with for the rest of your life.. and that you can't live without.

We, as younger people, believe we know what love is. We see adults "in love" often enough, and even though they get divorced we still think it's "true love" no matter how long it lasts. But is it?

And can you really love someone when you have never had to commit your life to them? If you never said the vows, walked the walk? Or is it just an obsession? Just hanging on?....

[Love2TrailRide]

ALl my bf's have said they love me, and I usually ask them to stop. The only guys I say I love you too are my dad, brother, and my really good guy friends.