[riding_reaper]

What the heck

So, theres a big long dramatic story as to how i met this guy but to make it short, it was at a party where everyone (except him and i) was VERY unstable. I left. He felt bad for me and stole my number from this d-bag guy i was there with and started texting me. Well, we talked for a long time. He texted and called me all the time. Finally we meet and go to a movie among "other things". Well,we keep talking for a long time. He lost his phone for a week and I thought he was ignoring me, so I got kind of upset. Well finally he got a new one nad told me the story and how sorry he was.
We went out again. He was really sweet and everything. We were talking one night and I asked him if i was his girl. He said "not yet".
Well, for the past couple of days, he started ignoring my texts. At least I think he has been ignoring them. I asked him if he wanted to make it official. No answer all night.
Yesterday I said just "hey whats up" and we had a conversation. Then i snuck in the question again. No answer.
Today I needed to get stuff done and keep my mind off of it so i left my phone at home all day. When i got back...no answer. About 10 minutes ago I asked him if he wanted to do anything because i have tonight off. He told me he couldnt because he had to help his mother with kids. I understood (I have a project to do anyways) then asked him why he didnt text me back yesterday. He said he was just sick and tired. I asked him if i could bring him something. He said "nah its alright". Then told him to text me if he gets bored. He said ok i will.

The question is, do you think he is ignoring me or actually was sick and tired? Does he think im just his plaything or does he actually want to be with me? I know its a lot to ask without knowing either of us or exactly the dimensions of our little thing we have going, but can someone help me analyze the situation?

[jade HEre]

i think that he wasn't sick and tired, and that he is just dodging the Q, of are you's together or not?, u should just keep asking him the Q until he has had enough and actually answers you, i would hate to be in your situation, hope everything works out =P

[riding_reaper]

we arent, but he is acting like we will be, then he doesnt seem to want to follow through.

The thing that gets me, he always seems happy and wants to talk to me when i talk to him, then he does stuff like this. It really makes me wonder what the heck

[JKetsche]

It seems like you're being a bit pushy and clingy. I'd say casually date him if you want, but don't bring it up again. Let him pursue you, not the other way around. Guys don't like to be chased and cornered, which is probably how he feels right now. Give him space. Heck, give him lots of space. Don't call or text. If he does contact you, don't be snippy or act offended. Act like you've got better things to do with your life than sit around and wait for him. Heck, don't act like it--you DO have better things to do. If you don't, find something. Anything is better than chasing after him. If he likes you enough, he'll call. If not, he wasn't worth your time anyway.

[xlilxonex]

If he ignores the question/doesn't answer it.... DONT push it... Give him his space, leave him be... If he comes arund, he comes around... If not, then be friends.

[Mira]

Exactly what JKetsche and xlilxonex said: don't push it. Obviously he hasn't got it figured out yet and if you keep bothering him about it he may just feel too pressured and you'll lose him. Keep things chill and don't bring it up again. You've made it known you're interested, now let him do what he wants with that info.

[meljean]

Leave him alone. This is not the way to get someone interested, and he is not acting like someone who is interested anyway.

Anytime you make yourself too available, and I am also implying too available in any aspect...then you become old news.

You are hounding him, and if your availability was that the "other things" where what I think they are, he will talk to you to keep that avenue open, but doesn't want to be with you full time.

If "other things" came soon after first movie, then he got what he wanted, plain and simple. Few guys will give up "other things" by being rude, as may want to get "other things" but that never means you are a couple. Just means you let him use you.

Guys use love to get sex, and girls use sex to get love.

[Kicks]

I think he is 'sick and tired' - of being pushed to make a commitment he's not ready for. If you are interested in him - then back off and let him do the 'chasing' - if he's interested.