I really like him but...now what?

i_luv_wildfire · 05-11-2006, 12:37 PM

Okay, so you might have read my earlier thread (*Updated* Likes me, likes me not...he likes me!!) about Devin. Well, I really like him and I think he feels the same way, but now what? I mean, I don't want to jump right into the French-kissing stage (it'll be a while for that one

) but as far as holding hands at school, hugging, stuff like that...I don't want to be the one to start any of that in case he might think it's weird or something, I don't know! I'm not making any sense, but do you know what I mean?

paint_gurl_101 · 05-11-2006, 03:50 PM

i deff. know what you mean! trust me, i was at the same stage your at now..olny mine was a few months ago. but as far as the holding hands thing, just bump into it like several times..and he might get the hint! lol

XOXO
nikki

BarebackJourney · 05-12-2006, 11:44 AM

The best advice I can give you is to talk to him about this... and that's easier said than done. But once you let him know that you want to take it slow, things will be a LOT easier on you rather than hoping, "does he understand? Is he okay with this? Is this weird?", etc, you know? Once you let him know, "These are my boundaries. I'm okay with this, this and this, but NOT this, and THIS will take some time." then you are headed in the right direction. A good relationship is an honest one, so let him know how you feel. If he feels differently, than you know sooner rather than later if a misunderstanding occurs... you know what I mean? Goodluck and keep us updated! =)

i_luv_wildfire · 05-12-2006, 03:59 PM

It's not that he's trying to go too fast or anything, it's just that...well, nothing is happening. Like he hasn't hugged me or held my hand or anything and I'm thinking that might be nice...but I don't want to seem too bold by initiating it or whatever.

BarebackJourney · 05-13-2006, 05:46 AM

Hm. Well... in this case, he might like you being bold... I don't know. Maybe you could casually slip your hand in his as you walk around...or put your arm around his shoulder and bring him into a quick hug. Just something to give him a little hint of what you want. Hope that helps!

EmazingCasper · 05-13-2006, 05:48 AM

I think he'll let you know when he is ready.

kelli · 05-13-2006, 02:20 PM

Aww thats kinda cute, well i think maybe no for true guys are stuiped and they never take hints lol you have to show him that you like him maybe just casully when ur walking hold out your hand hinting towards that you want to hang on to it. It's all about fighting your fears here makeing the first move seems to me the best idea here remeber the worst is only that he wont want to hang on you hand. Nothing more.. Good Luck

05-11-2006, 12:37 PM	#1
i_luv_wildfire Senior Member+ Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: At the barn Posts: 4,190 Images: 214 Blog Entries: 3	I really like him but...now what? Okay, so you might have read my earlier thread (Updated Likes me, likes me not...he likes me!!) about Devin. Well, I really like him and I think he feels the same way, but now what? I mean, I don't want to jump right into the French-kissing stage (it'll be a while for that one ) but as far as holding hands at school, hugging, stuff like that...I don't want to be the one to start any of that in case he might think it's weird or something, I don't know! I'm not making any sense, but do you know what I mean? __________________ *equestrian sports...* strength \| determination \| energy \| heart eat. sleep. ride.

05-11-2006, 03:50 PM	#2
paint_gurl_101 Banned Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Hippie Town Or. Posts: 680 Images: 40 Blog Entries: 7	i deff. know what you mean! trust me, i was at the same stage your at now..olny mine was a few months ago. but as far as the holding hands thing, just bump into it like several times..and he might get the hint! lol XOXO nikki Last edited by paint_gurl_101; 05-11-2006 at 09:19 PM.

05-12-2006, 11:44 AM	#3
BarebackJourney Senior Member+ Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: North Carolina Posts: 2,184 Images: 193 Blog Entries: 6	The best advice I can give you is to talk to him about this... and that's easier said than done. But once you let him know that you want to take it slow, things will be a LOT easier on you rather than hoping, "does he understand? Is he okay with this? Is this weird?", etc, you know? Once you let him know, "These are my boundaries. I'm okay with this, this and this, but NOT this, and THIS will take some time." then you are headed in the right direction. A good relationship is an honest one, so let him know how you feel. If he feels differently, than you know sooner rather than later if a misunderstanding occurs... you know what I mean? Goodluck and keep us updated! =) __________________ Intuition tells me how to live my day, Intuition tells me, when to walk away.

05-12-2006, 03:59 PM	#4
i_luv_wildfire Senior Member+ Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: At the barn Posts: 4,190 Images: 214 Blog Entries: 3	It's not that he's trying to go too fast or anything, it's just that...well, nothing is happening. Like he hasn't hugged me or held my hand or anything and I'm thinking that might be nice...but I don't want to seem too bold by initiating it or whatever. __________________ *equestrian sports...* strength \| determination \| energy \| heart eat. sleep. ride.

05-13-2006, 05:46 AM	#5
BarebackJourney Senior Member+ Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: North Carolina Posts: 2,184 Images: 193 Blog Entries: 6	Hm. Well... in this case, he might like you being bold... I don't know. Maybe you could casually slip your hand in his as you walk around...or put your arm around his shoulder and bring him into a quick hug. Just something to give him a little hint of what you want. Hope that helps! __________________ Intuition tells me how to live my day, Intuition tells me, when to walk away.

05-13-2006, 02:20 PM	#7
kelli Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ontario, canada Posts: 346 Images: 142	Aww thats kinda cute, well i think maybe no for true guys are stuiped and they never take hints lol you have to show him that you like him maybe just casully when ur walking hold out your hand hinting towards that you want to hang on to it. It's all about fighting your fears here makeing the first move seems to me the best idea here remeber the worst is only that he wont want to hang on you hand. Nothing more.. Good Luck