[Oreogurl]

I can't believe I'm actually posting a thread for guy advice.

Last year, I met a guy that I kind of liked from the start. He's really cute, and seemed to be mean to everyone except me and his close friends. I'm pretty close with HIS best friend, so we ended up spending a lot of time together. He was probably one of my best guy friends last year.

Around the middle of the year last year, his friend told me he liked me. I didn't really react that much (I'm not the kind of person that really listens to people when they say things like that) until he started being REALLY nice to me. He'd say something mean about a group of people, but then take it back when he found out I was a part of it.

Then he moved.

I talk to him almost every day between texting and facebook. I miss him to death, and he tells me he misses me too. Usually our convorsations are just the usual "I'm good....how's your new school doing..." "i'm good...miss you...." and such. After he moved he seemed to get less....exciting...and now he only replies with one or two word answers.

For the past few days, though, we've been having really long and deep convorsations. (Or about as long and deep as a facebook chat can get :P) He's asked me more specific things about school and friends and was responding more than usual. I was really happy

Then yesterday he kind of asked me out. I didn't actually realize it until I went back and read the convorsation....but he did. Of course, being blonde and all, I didn't know and had to leave. I was pretty dissappointed when I reread it because I TOTALLY would have said yes....IF I knew that he was asking me.

Today I log on to facebook and see that he has a girlfriend. Now, he's not the kind of guy that just goes around from girl to girl asking them out, and rarely is with someone. He's the kind of guy that gets to know a girl for a while and THEN askes her out, once he knows her. He's known his new girlfriend for two months.

He won't answer my texts or messages.

Sorry for that. I didn't know I was even going to write that much. It feels good to let it out I'm just really confused...and kind of mad.

[K Riding Girl]

whoa - thats intense im not quite sure what to feel........... wait did he move far away???

[LifeIsGrand]

I would call him, if you really want to.

[Mira]

Sounds to me that it's a pretty good thing you didn't realize he was asking you out and thus didn't say yes. Obviously he doesn't truly care that much about you if the next day/a few days later he's got a girlfriend.

[EquestrianGirl]

well call him or send him a text or message or BOTH and say ur normal hi hello whats up what ever you do then in caps put IM SORRY i had a blonde moment and did NOT kno u asked me out or i would have said YES tell him how u feel then say i relize u have a gf now but i still really like you but im happy for u if shes what you want im happy for you.... if he likes you odds r he will reply if he does but hes like sh.it i have a gf now nd doesnt want to hurt her at least u will still be friends and u never kno what can happen with some time =) good luck ps PM if u want to add me on facebook ill give u my info or i can get urs and add u lol I HOPE IT ALL WORKS OUT FOR U IM SURE IT WILL

[Oreogurl]

Originally Posted by K Riding Girl

whoa - thats intense im not quite sure what to feel........... wait did he move far away???

about 30mins. not TOO far...but far enough that his school doesn't go to any of the same meets or games or anything.

Originally Posted by LifeIsGrand

I would call him, if you really want to.

I'm not even sure what I'm going to do. i HATE phone calls though. i just get really...i don't even know. haha :P sending messages is better because i have time to react to anything. just my opinion though.

Originally Posted by Mira

Sounds to me that it's a pretty good thing you didn't realize he was asking you out and thus didn't say yes. Obviously he doesn't truly care that much about you if the next day/a few days later he's got a girlfriend.

thanks I was wondering about this....I also though maybe he was upset that I didn't say yes and that's what made him ask out this other girl? I'm just sooo confused.

Originally Posted by EquestrianGirl

well call him or send him a text or message or BOTH and say ur normal hi hello whats up what ever you do then in caps put IM SORRY i had a blonde moment and did NOT kno u asked me out or i would have said YES tell him how u feel then say i relize u have a gf now but i still really like you but im happy for u if shes what you want im happy for you.... if he likes you odds r he will reply if he does but hes like sh.it i have a gf now nd doesnt want to hurt her at least u will still be friends and u never kno what can happen with some time =) good luck ps PM if u want to add me on facebook ill give u my info or i can get urs and add u lol I HOPE IT ALL WORKS OUT FOR U IM SURE IT WILL

PMing you more happened today that kind of....explained things. A LITTLE. not really though.

[jade HEre]

i think that you should just act as if everything is normal, and talk to him as you did before, the last facebook convo lol =P

i hope everything works out, it always works out even if we dont think that it has so just hang in there!

=D

[ArabianHaven]

I hope things get better. Maybe he just posted that to upset you.

[Mira]

Originally Posted by Oreogurl

thanks I was wondering about this....I also though maybe he was upset that I didn't say yes and that's what made him ask out this other girl? I'm just sooo confused.

See, I'd doubt that. I mean, he's a teenage boy, and this sounds like typical teenage boy behavior. He talks to a couple girls, goes for his "favorite" first (so you most likely) then if she doesn't work out, just moves on down the line to his second favorite (current girlfriend). I'm a junior and I've yet to meet a teenage guy that I have the slightest inclination that he'd only ask out another girl because he was upset.

Really, I think it's a very good thing you didn't end up dating him. Saves you from being let down worse in the future.

[melindak1982]

hmmmm, well in my experience (i'm 27,(so old, lol) married, and have had my share of mind-messers) lol. I would move on, i could be totally wrong and i don't have all the info but to ME it sounds like he was interested in you, and when he moved, he met someone (hence the short texts etc) and then things might have started to cool down and he started wondering if things might tstill be there with you, and was in a 'waffling' state of mind and he asked you out to see if you were still an option. It sounds like he's intersted but wants it to come easy (just based on the fact that he responded less just because you didn't jump on his first offer. Again, i don't know him or you so i'm just going off what you said, but he seems like guys i've known that don't know what they want and don't want to work to get a girl. And i'm thinking he was with this other girl still when he asked you out, which means it's likely that he will be doing the same if you end up with him. You should find someone that will make you a priority, not keep you as an option.Just my opinion