I have a .... Dilemma

Silverwings · 08-23-2007, 09:00 AM

And here it is... I absolutely ADORE jumping and want to do Grand Prix level show jumping one day... Anyways, for the past year, I have been absolutely petrified of it! And unfortunately, have avoided it... Maybe I'm still getting over the shock of New horse, new barn and new trainer... But I do really want to get back to flying over those jumps, but I think I'm letting the fact that I haven't jumped in now 4 years (because I had stopped riding for a bit and the trainer I had that made me want to take a break only did flat work and no jumping), get to me. My trainer is a perfectionist (more so than most

) and I think, for some reason, I am very afraid that my positioning will be horrible and she'll yell at me! Even though I know she wouldn't and would help me get back into what I used to be able to do...

If that made no sense whatsoever, I appologise, but I think I'm just trying to figure out what is stopping me from jumping. Do you have any ideas or similar stories, or suggestions to help? I know I will love it once I get back into it, but it's getting myself over that first jump that is proving to be a lot harder than I thought it would be.

CowGirlUp1833 · 08-23-2007, 09:24 AM

Trainers are there to help you, not make you feel like an idiot. If your jumping position was already perfect, she'd be out of a job.

A good trainer will do thier job and help you improve.

Silverwings · 08-23-2007, 09:48 AM

You are absolutely right, I just need to suck it up and get on with it! How else am I going to make it to the top?

HorseBliss · 08-23-2007, 09:51 AM

don't be scared.

you'll be fine. you've jumped before. you're not starting all over, just pickin up where you left off. start small, don't think about it so much, take a deep breath and relax.

i agree with CowGirlUp1833.

Silverwings · 08-23-2007, 10:04 AM

Thank you!

Fire_Dawn · 08-23-2007, 10:07 AM

maybe if you start small on your own and once you think you're okay with the small one, jump bigger with your trainer. Good luck!

Friesiangirl · 08-23-2007, 10:28 AM

You can do it! You'll never get better if you never try

Reyven · 08-23-2007, 10:34 AM

You'll be fine! It's always a little scary for difficult to get back into things that you used to do!
I took a break from riding for...3 years, and was terrified when I started riding again that my position would just suck and I would be a crappy rider...
Well position didn't 'suck' but it wasn't great after that long lol but over time I've gotten better, and I will continue to do better, even after this year long absence!
You'll do fine, just start off small and work your way back up! And do it on a confident horse to get your confidence back up!

Silverwings · 08-23-2007, 12:05 PM

Thank you, everyone!!

08-23-2007, 09:00 AM	#1
Silverwings Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 1,404 Images: 146	I have a .... Dilemma And here it is... I absolutely ADORE jumping and want to do Grand Prix level show jumping one day... Anyways, for the past year, I have been absolutely petrified of it! And unfortunately, have avoided it... Maybe I'm still getting over the shock of New horse, new barn and new trainer... But I do really want to get back to flying over those jumps, but I think I'm letting the fact that I haven't jumped in now 4 years (because I had stopped riding for a bit and the trainer I had that made me want to take a break only did flat work and no jumping), get to me. My trainer is a perfectionist (more so than most ) and I think, for some reason, I am very afraid that my positioning will be horrible and she'll yell at me! Even though I know she wouldn't and would help me get back into what I used to be able to do... If that made no sense whatsoever, I appologise, but I think I'm just trying to figure out what is stopping me from jumping. Do you have any ideas or similar stories, or suggestions to help? I know I will love it once I get back into it, but it's getting myself over that first jump that is proving to be a lot harder than I thought it would be. __________________ ~Leah~ It's a bird, it's a plane... no, it's... idlewild! Disproving urban legends faster than a runnaway thoroughbred ~ idlewild

08-23-2007, 09:24 AM	#2
CowGirlUp1833 Senior Member+ Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Holland Lake Shore, West Michigan Posts: 15,777 Images: 383 Blog Entries: 33	Trainers are there to help you, not make you feel like an idiot. If your jumping position was already perfect, she'd be out of a job. A good trainer will do thier job and help you improve. __________________ *Kimberly* www.Equine-Endeavors.com Training horses properly is a study in delayed gratification....

08-23-2007, 09:48 AM	#3
Silverwings Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 1,404 Images: 146	You are absolutely right, I just need to suck it up and get on with it! How else am I going to make it to the top? __________________ ~Leah~ It's a bird, it's a plane... no, it's... idlewild! Disproving urban legends faster than a runnaway thoroughbred ~ idlewild

08-23-2007, 09:51 AM	#4
HorseBliss Senior Member+ Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: IN MY OWN STATE OF MIND Posts: 3,927 Images: 386	don't be scared. you'll be fine. you've jumped before. you're not starting all over, just pickin up where you left off. start small, don't think about it so much, take a deep breath and relax. i agree with CowGirlUp1833. __________________ *"Dream it ya fkin dreamers" - Dane Cook* $$Proud Member of the Thoroughbred Club$$ ☼Proud member of the Hunter Jumper Club.☼**

08-23-2007, 10:04 AM	#5
Silverwings Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 1,404 Images: 146	Thank you! __________________ ~Leah~ It's a bird, it's a plane... no, it's... idlewild! Disproving urban legends faster than a runnaway thoroughbred ~ idlewild

08-23-2007, 10:07 AM	#6
Fire_Dawn Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Your guess is as good as mine but I guess Ontario Posts: 717 Images: 5 Blog Entries: 1	maybe if you start small on your own and once you think you're okay with the small one, jump bigger with your trainer. Good luck! __________________ Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened Proud Member of the Quarter Horse Club

08-23-2007, 10:28 AM	#7
Friesiangirl Senior Member+ Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Eugene, OR Posts: 9,501 Images: 179 Blog Entries: 22	You can do it! You'll never get better if you never try __________________ I cannot be expected to think wihtout a good powerbar and some coffee. Stargate Fans Unite.

08-23-2007, 10:34 AM	#8
Reyven Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Colorado Posts: 1,034 Images: 14 Blog Entries: 3	You'll be fine! It's always a little scary for difficult to get back into things that you used to do! I took a break from riding for...3 years, and was terrified when I started riding again that my position would just suck and I would be a crappy rider... Well position didn't 'suck' but it wasn't great after that long lol but over time I've gotten better, and I will continue to do better, even after this year long absence! You'll do fine, just start off small and work your way back up! And do it on a confident horse to get your confidence back up!

08-23-2007, 12:05 PM	#9
Silverwings Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 1,404 Images: 146	Thank you, everyone!! __________________ ~Leah~ It's a bird, it's a plane... no, it's... idlewild! Disproving urban legends faster than a runnaway thoroughbred ~ idlewild

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