[gratifite]

This question is aimed mostly to those who have spouses or significant others. My husband, by his own admission, is less knowledgeable/experienced than I am when it comes to horses & riding. And, when we talk about things, he says he'll listen to me and do things the way I ask THEN he goes ahead and does things his own way anyway !!!! Sometimes it's simply an annoyance and other times it's just downright unsafe! I blame it on his gender and the fact that he always has to be right. Does anyone else experience this & if so, how do you handle it?

[Fallon]

Umm yeah lol. My husband can ride, but doesn't know much else about horses. HE does try, but there are times when I let loose with the lecture and other times I let him get kicked or stomped on and then give the lecture. Sometimes they have to learn through having it happen to them.

I got my foot broke last year because Hubby didn't listen and do what he was told. He let the horse have it's head while I was up underneath her holding her foot up and bandaging it. You can bet he hasn't forgotten that lesson.

That's really all you can do, lecture and let them learn the hard way, and hope for the best.

[gratifite]

Originally Posted by Fallon

Umm yeah lol. My husband can ride, but doesn't know much else about horses.

That's one thing. Randy can ride - fairly well. But when it comes to safely & horse care, he doesn't know it all. He's worked w/ cattle throughout his life so that means he knows it all about horses too --- Grrrr!

[Arco]

My partner knows absolutely nothing about horses, but handling that is easy - they are also terrified of them so there's no risk of them doing anything unsafe . Actually, the other week my partner actually stroked Smartie while she was tied up and posed for a photo (a first - a pat from the other side of the fence is the most that's ever happened up until then), but the fear could be clearly seen, even in a slightly blurry camera-phone picture .

[Tatooed Lady]

Hubby got the Evil Eye and Silent Treatment a few months back when we were working with Queen. He rode her around the arena for a few minutes, then gave me a shot....cinch was loose, so the saddle rode sideways when I tried to mount. Well, I had to take it off and go to put it back on, but I forget exactly what happened, but he didn't listen, and I almost got trampled, lesson OVER.

Safety is Rule #1.
If you don't have Safety, you don't ride, PERIOD.

Once I stopped taking the word of other, more experienced people that my horse was "fine" and that I was "just being paranoid" and used my gut to get me through, I stopped getting hurt. Hmm...go figure.

[jumpthemoon]

Originally Posted by gratifite

This question is aimed mostly to those who have spouses or significant others. My husband, by his own admission, is less knowledgeable/experienced than I am when it comes to horses & riding. And, when we talk about things, he says he'll listen to me and do things the way I ask THEN he goes ahead and does things his own way anyway !!!! Sometimes it's simply an annoyance and other times it's just downright unsafe! I blame it on his gender and the fact that he always has to be right. Does anyone else experience this & if so, how do you handle it?

One thing I have learned about men over the years is that when a man asks you how to do something and then you tell him, it goes a lot better than when you simply tell him how to do something your way, without him asking. You kind of need their permission and the trick is learning how to get them to ask you.

[gratifite]

Originally Posted by jumpthemoon

You kind of need their permission and the trick is learning how to get them to ask you.

So are you going to let me in on the trick to getting him to ask

[prairienights]

My boyfriend of two years is simply amazing when it comes to horses. He's fairly clueless at times, but always asks questions and enjoys participating. He doesn't have much of an interest in actually riding, but he loves going out to the barn and saying hi to all the horses. He loves walking around the pasture giving each horse a carrot I swear I have the most supportive guy when it comes to riding; he actually enjoys watching my lessons and taking pictures.

He's actually getting to be quite a little helper. My horse hurt his eye a few days ago and needs ointments a few times a day. My boyfriend got my 5yo OTTB relaxed, and put the ointment in as quickly and easily as I could have done it. I was impressed.

So I know what it's like to have a clueless guy, but I've never really had a problem with mine.