Guy issue, please help!!

born2ride_33 · 11-18-2005, 05:19 PM

Ok, so, here's the deal. There is this guy that I absoluty love, (well I have a crush on him) and I really want to ask him out but I'm absoluty terrified. I know, I know very cheesy, but this would be my first time AND my first boyfriend...I'm sad, I know. What should I do, I THINK he likes me too but I'm not sure. I could have one of his friends ask him (I'm friends with on of his friends) and then I wouldn't be so scared to ask him out if I knew he liked me. Or I could just suck it up and call him...What should I do?!?! I can't live without seeing this guy for like one day and it's killing me right now! I want to go out with him soooo bad...

xJ'adore.horsex · 11-18-2005, 06:39 PM

I say go for it! cause if you wait too long he might move on and go out with someone else. And i dont think its such a fantastic idea to ask one of hid friends cause then the friend might tell hiom and he might think your desprate. Sooo my conclusion would be call him up and tell him how you feel. It just might be the call hes been waiting for!
Be sure to update me on what happens!
ps. hope my advice helps

Elia · 11-19-2005, 01:29 AM

Usually if you can't even trust the person to go up to them and say "I'm interested in you", it isn't really worth it. Honestly. Even if your shy. How I know this? I used to be a very shy person..like..really shy. Now I can talk to almost anyone in person, but the people who I was too shy to tell I liked them, I knew there was something that made them unapproachable. Just didn't know what. Something about them I didn't trust. Later on, I learnt these people were into drugs, into seducing women, etc. It may not be the same in most cases... but usually (even if you are shy) you can't tell someone something because you don't really.. trust them. That's one of the most important things to think about. Would you trust this guy with your life? Since you can't even approach him and/or tell him you are interested, do you really trust him? Is it just an infatuation? Not even love at all but a strong liking? How do you know it is love? Would you do anything (within limits) for this guy? Do you appreciate him for who he is? Do you care about him more than yourself? If you answered yes to all of those, WHY can't you approach him? Do you really trust him? Or is it just a matter of you want to get to know him more before you tell him? If you aren't sure about a guy, it's not a good idea to tell them, though, or really, anyone else except people you know you can confide in who will help you think before considering "I want to date/court him" and not push you at the guy. (You don't have to answer these to anyone, you can keep the answers to yourself or not even answer them at all). I've been in situations like this before, and I really wish I'd done what I just suggested you to do..although you don't have to.

chocchipcookie · 11-19-2005, 01:35 AM

Lol coming from someone who has never had a boyfriend either just call him. I mean I would be scared too but hey, the worst that can happen is that he'll say no, and if he does he wasn't worth it for you anyway.

myhorsefrizzy · 11-19-2005, 01:52 AM

Get one of your friends to go up to him and ask him if he fancys you, and then ask your friends to tell you what he said. If he said that he does fancy you, then ask him ask, But if he said no, then dont.

Hope that helps!

Emzalss@2580 · 11-19-2005, 08:59 AM

DON'T INVOLVE YOUR FRIENDS!!!!

Do it all yourself, then if it goes well you can feel proud of yourself.

If you're too scared to try something and keep putting it off, you'll never get better at it.

Paint_luver · 11-19-2005, 11:07 AM

Go for it, yourself. Yes, scary it is, I asked a guy out for the first time a few weeks ago, but he's now my boyfriend, which is awesome! So, just go for it. You'll kick yourself for never knowing if you don't!

Zoomarsgirl · 11-19-2005, 11:12 AM

Yeah, the worst he can say is no!

I say go for it! Good luck!

arabianlover · 11-19-2005, 01:03 PM

ahh, but them saying no is HORRIBLE< thats why you have your friends beat around the bush, and flirt,lol, thats what I always do, but then again I sum how manage to flirt with like every guy I meet(dreams of hot guy at the consession stand at mt vernon!!)

Mariah

Jig · 11-19-2005, 04:14 PM

I say go for it because confidence is the key. Flirting will also give it away.. just flirt away and away until he gets it. If he flirts back, you'll know he likes you a little. Then is the time to ask him out.

11-18-2005, 05:19 PM	#1
born2ride_33 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Minnesota Posts: 1,648 Images: 245	Guy issue, please help!! Ok, so, here's the deal. There is this guy that I absoluty love, (well I have a crush on him) and I really want to ask him out but I'm absoluty terrified. I know, I know very cheesy, but this would be my first time AND my first boyfriend...I'm sad, I know. What should I do, I THINK he likes me too but I'm not sure. I could have one of his friends ask him (I'm friends with on of his friends) and then I wouldn't be so scared to ask him out if I knew he liked me. Or I could just suck it up and call him...What should I do?!?! I can't live without seeing this guy for like one day and it's killing me right now! I want to go out with him soooo bad... __________________ (}--{) **Taylor...3 barrels, 2 hearts, 1 passion (}--{) Yankee's Lucky Boy - '97 Palomino Paint Gelding Dana - '03 Silver Dapple Shetland Pony Mare Tucker was voted MOST AMAZING HORSE and BEST SOLID PAINT GELDING on HGS!!**

11-18-2005, 06:39 PM	#2
xJ'adore.horsex Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 3 Images: 1	I say go for it! cause if you wait too long he might move on and go out with someone else. And i dont think its such a fantastic idea to ask one of hid friends cause then the friend might tell hiom and he might think your desprate. Sooo my conclusion would be call him up and tell him how you feel. It just might be the call hes been waiting for! Be sure to update me on what happens! ps. hope my advice helps __________________ I live in a house but my home is in the stable. This little girl would rather go to the stable then to the mall

11-19-2005, 01:29 AM	#3
Elia Senior Member+ Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Earth, of course. Posts: 307 Blog Entries: 16	Usually if you can't even trust the person to go up to them and say "I'm interested in you", it isn't really worth it. Honestly. Even if your shy. How I know this? I used to be a very shy person..like..really shy. Now I can talk to almost anyone in person, but the people who I was too shy to tell I liked them, I knew there was something that made them unapproachable. Just didn't know what. Something about them I didn't trust. Later on, I learnt these people were into drugs, into seducing women, etc. It may not be the same in most cases... but usually (even if you are shy) you can't tell someone something because you don't really.. trust them. That's one of the most important things to think about. Would you trust this guy with your life? Since you can't even approach him and/or tell him you are interested, do you really trust him? Is it just an infatuation? Not even love at all but a strong liking? How do you know it is love? Would you do anything (within limits) for this guy? Do you appreciate him for who he is? Do you care about him more than yourself? If you answered yes to all of those, WHY can't you approach him? Do you really trust him? Or is it just a matter of you want to get to know him more before you tell him? If you aren't sure about a guy, it's not a good idea to tell them, though, or really, anyone else except people you know you can confide in who will help you think before considering "I want to date/court him" and not push you at the guy. (You don't have to answer these to anyone, you can keep the answers to yourself or not even answer them at all). I've been in situations like this before, and I really wish I'd done what I just suggested you to do..although you don't have to. __________________ "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." ~Maya Angelou

11-19-2005, 01:35 AM	#4
chocchipcookie Senior Member+ Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Sydney, Australia... Posts: 2,523 Images: 125 Blog Entries: 14	Lol coming from someone who has never had a boyfriend either just call him. I mean I would be scared too but hey, the worst that can happen is that he'll say no, and if he does he wasn't worth it for you anyway. __________________ Live for today, we'll dream tomorrow.

11-19-2005, 01:52 AM	#5
myhorsefrizzy Full Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: wiltshire,uk Posts: 52 Images: 1	Get one of your friends to go up to him and ask him if he fancys you, and then ask your friends to tell you what he said. If he said that he does fancy you, then ask him ask, But if he said no, then dont. Hope that helps! __________________ I am now CONFINDENT with horses! YEY!

11-19-2005, 08:59 AM	#6
Emzalss@2580 Senior Member+ Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: England Posts: 634 Images: 73 Blog Entries: 4	DON'T INVOLVE YOUR FRIENDS!!!! Do it all yourself, then if it goes well you can feel proud of yourself. If you're too scared to try something and keep putting it off, you'll never get better at it. __________________ Be careful who's advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it.

11-19-2005, 11:07 AM	#7
Paint_luver Senior Member+ Join Date: May 2004 Location: Cork, Ireland Posts: 5,885 Images: 297 Blog Entries: 137	Go for it, yourself. Yes, scary it is, I asked a guy out for the first time a few weeks ago, but he's now my boyfriend, which is awesome! So, just go for it. You'll kick yourself for never knowing if you don't! __________________ "Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby to be picked up and laid down like a game of Solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed ." Ralph Waldo Emerson

11-19-2005, 11:12 AM	#8
Zoomarsgirl Senior Member+ Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Hicktown, Virginia Posts: 7,565 Images: 282	Yeah, the worst he can say is no! I say go for it! Good luck! __________________ -Jennifer Country & Zoomar. Rest in peace handsome boys, you will forever be missed. <3

11-19-2005, 01:03 PM	#9
arabianlover Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: New Pal, Indiana Posts: 870 Images: 238 Blog Entries: 8	ahh, but them saying no is HORRIBLE< thats why you have your friends beat around the bush, and flirt,lol, thats what I always do, but then again I sum how manage to flirt with like every guy I meet(dreams of hot guy at the consession stand at mt vernon!!) Mariah __________________ check out my photography at www.give-me-envy.deviantart.com

11-19-2005, 04:14 PM	#10
Jig Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 600 Images: 41	I say go for it because confidence is the key. Flirting will also give it away.. just flirt away and away until he gets it. If he flirts back, you'll know he likes you a little. Then is the time to ask him out.

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