Friends far away, how do you deal?

Solly Jumper · 10-31-2007, 08:15 PM

I went to a private school for a while and made amazing friends with people. Most of them ended up moving out of country, because of their parents jobs. So now I have close friends all over and my only connection is online - long distance calls are SO expensive. I'm having a really hard time dealing with this. Not being able to be physically with them is so hard to cope with, because it's so different than talking online, way more personal. I get so upset about this - knowing that I'd fit in so well where they are makes living where I do like ****.

I can't even visit them...

Not only is that a problem, but I feel like I'm secluding myself because I feel nobody can live up to their standards or something. I'm just waiting for something great to happen, when really I need to get out there and make them happen. I'm 16 now and waiting so anxiously to turn 18 when I can go off to university and truly become my own self, but I don't want to look back on highschool and be like, "I wasted my youth." I keep trying to tell myself that there's way more to life than highschool, but it doesn't work...

How do I cope?!

Amber.Molly · 10-31-2007, 08:31 PM

Hmmm well I had the opposite problem... Once I graduated high-school all my friends dispersed. But I still keep in touch with most of them, and on holidays some of them come back to visit, or I go out there to visit them. I find the internet an invaluble tool for long distance communication... I live in a diffferent city than my boyfriend for part of the week, and having MSN saves me! LOL

Maybe try getting a web cam? or there is something called Skype that is free and its like an online phone/webcam type thing.

As for making new friend.s... just giver. There's no harm done in having two groups of friends

kvmt10 · 10-31-2007, 08:40 PM

My friends literally live on the other side of the world so i guess you could say I have a long distant relationship with a lot of my buddies!

All I can suggest is take the time to write snail mail. Its soooo much more personal than a quick email or message.

Also buy a calling card, it really helps cut down the cost of long distant phone calls.

ponypotion · 11-01-2007, 07:39 AM

I only have a few really good friends and some of them have moved to go onto college. But we have made a yearly trip that we all make to the ren fest in texas once a year.
It's not alot of time to spend or see someone but it sure is great to reconnect!

Solly Jumper · 11-21-2007, 07:49 PM

Thanks for all of your suggestions. I'm still trying to figure out a good option for me.

10-31-2007, 08:15 PM	#1
Solly Jumper Senior Member+ Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Port Colborne, ON, Canada (09/23/09 - 01/06/10) Posts: 4,321 Images: 274 Blog Entries: 3	Friends far away, how do you deal? I went to a private school for a while and made amazing friends with people. Most of them ended up moving out of country, because of their parents jobs. So now I have close friends all over and my only connection is online - long distance calls are SO expensive. I'm having a really hard time dealing with this. Not being able to be physically with them is so hard to cope with, because it's so different than talking online, way more personal. I get so upset about this - knowing that I'd fit in so well where they are makes living where I do like **. I can't even visit them... Not only is that a problem, but I feel like I'm secluding myself because I feel nobody can live up to their standards or something. I'm just waiting for something great to happen, when really I need to get out there and make them happen. I'm 16 now and waiting so anxiously to turn 18 when I can go off to university and truly become my own self, but I don't want to look back on highschool and be like, "I wasted my youth." I keep trying to tell myself that there's way more to life than highschool, but it doesn't work... How do I cope?! __________________ to ride a horse is to ride the sky** Click here for rider/horse apparel + more for sale!

10-31-2007, 08:31 PM	#2
Amber.Molly Senior Member+ Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 5,433 Images: 306 Blog Entries: 127	Hmmm well I had the opposite problem... Once I graduated high-school all my friends dispersed. But I still keep in touch with most of them, and on holidays some of them come back to visit, or I go out there to visit them. I find the internet an invaluble tool for long distance communication... I live in a diffferent city than my boyfriend for part of the week, and having MSN saves me! LOL Maybe try getting a web cam? or there is something called Skype that is free and its like an online phone/webcam type thing. As for making new friend.s... just giver. There's no harm done in having two groups of friends __________________ ♥ I have a G.E.M ♥

10-31-2007, 08:40 PM	#3
kvmt10 Senior Member+ Join Date: May 2005 Location: back in the land of Oz Posts: 3,129 Images: 83 Blog Entries: 81	My friends literally live on the other side of the world so i guess you could say I have a long distant relationship with a lot of my buddies! All I can suggest is take the time to write snail mail. Its soooo much more personal than a quick email or message. Also buy a calling card, it really helps cut down the cost of long distant phone calls. __________________ Katie ♥I will love you always and forever my 3 beautiful angels♥ "Insanity is a just a State of Mind" - Hawkeye Pierce http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hTlrSYbCbHE Respect yourself and the Rights of others.

11-21-2007, 07:49 PM	#5
Solly Jumper Senior Member+ Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Port Colborne, ON, Canada (09/23/09 - 01/06/10) Posts: 4,321 Images: 274 Blog Entries: 3	Thanks for all of your suggestions. I'm still trying to figure out a good option for me. __________________ to ride a horse is to ride the sky Click here for rider/horse apparel + more for sale!

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11-01-2007, 07:39 AM	#4
ponypotion Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Louisiana Posts: 785 Images: 4	I only have a few really good friends and some of them have moved to go onto college. But we have made a yearly trip that we all make to the ren fest in texas once a year. It's not alot of time to spend or see someone but it sure is great to reconnect!