Forming a bond?

dudleysbabymama · 07-02-2009, 12:06 PM

Hey everyone!

I've been a train and sell type of horseperson for the past 6 years (out of eight), and I'd really like to settle down with my new horse.

(It sounds like dating, lol..

)

I know brushing and stuff can form a bond, but does anyone have anyway to form a partnership with a horse and not just a 'your a horse, im a rider, you listen to me' type of deal?

ANy help is appreciated..

thanks

KT

kmdstar · 07-02-2009, 12:14 PM

Taking the horse on walks (like a dog, not riding

), lots of desensitizing helped with Starlite, handgrazing. That's all I got for now, I'm sure I'll be back with more later.

BKKain · 07-02-2009, 12:20 PM

To elaberate on "Desensitizing" , Getting your horse to walk over, under, through objects he wouldnt see on a regular basis.
I found my horse really connected with me when he'd be experiencing something new, I'd put my hand on him and rub gently all the way down his back and all over, he really seemed to relax.
Some other ideas, Round Pen work, Hand walking, Grooming, And perhaps just hanging out with him/her in their paddock,pasture,stall..What ever is available to you!

Good Luck!

GottaRide · 07-02-2009, 01:55 PM

Every horse will have a different personality that goes beyond the "you're a horse, I'm a rider" relationship. Sometimes all we can really ask for is that sort of relationship, but other times there will be a horse that connects with you a lot deeper. I think it's up to the horse to let that deeper connection grow.

That being said, there are some things that you can do to show the horse that you are someone he can trust & look to for guidance. I like The Bonder from www.marvwalker.com. I also like the 7 Games from Parelli. I think these philosophies create a better connection between horse & handler than simply brushing or sitting in a pasture will do.

Good luck & Enjoy your horse!

Maisie · 07-02-2009, 02:23 PM

As well as grooming & round pen pen work, I talk to my horses whenever I am with them & sometimes even sing ! I also spend time just hanging out with them & showing them affection ... it really works with my two , & one was a rescue who was terrified of everything ... he now follows me around like a dog less than a year after I got him.

Bruce Wiley · 07-02-2009, 03:05 PM

Your proper handling and training hopely will influence the forming.

What I have notice over the years of training horses they want to know they have a real leader type that will convey and convince them of what is acceptable & not acceptable behaviors. Having the right and timely corrections will weight heavy in whether the horse submit and accept your authority as his leader.
Trust and the bond is the every last thing they turn over to us.
Its comes from our proper handling and directions of them and its the horse call and this is totally up to the horse, when or whether the bond will take it place between humans and them in a good relationship togather.

Find and get with an indivdual that has a good relationship with their horse.
The evident of a good bond should be easily seen and present in their relationship.
Ask the indivdual to show and exlpain to you how to go about creating a positive bond with a horse and hopely they are able to assist in your learning process.

I hope this insight helps.

phoenixfyre71 · 07-02-2009, 03:15 PM

I spent quiet time with Aslan when I got him. Just "being" in the pasture with him, sitting in a round pen minding my own business when he was in there. He seemed to warm to me quickly that way. Sometimes it is not always about "doing" but "being".

John · 07-02-2009, 11:20 PM

Make him work. Be fair but he must do what you ask when you ask. When he feels that you are doing a good job of being his leader he will begin to trust you. Bruce has it right.

Jess! · 07-02-2009, 11:22 PM

Kandee and I bonded over time. When I first got her I wasn't too impressed, but over time it just...happened. It's not something you can rush, and it doesn't happen all the time. But that mare is MY mare, and I am HER person. She loves me, and you can tell.

All I did was spend lots of time talking to her. Every time I fed, brushed, or rode I carried on full conversations. I still treated her as a horse, but she was talked to a LOT. I think that really, really helps.

Roxi&Bingo · 07-02-2009, 11:29 PM

I know just kind of 'playing around' with Roxi helped. By this I mean free lunging her, and then letting her come up to me and I'd make a noise and she'd run and just play. We both enjoyed it

07-02-2009, 12:06 PM	#1
dudleysbabymama Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 16	Forming a bond? Hey everyone! I've been a train and sell type of horseperson for the past 6 years (out of eight), and I'd really like to settle down with my new horse. (It sounds like dating, lol..) I know brushing and stuff can form a bond, but does anyone have anyway to form a partnership with a horse and not just a 'your a horse, im a rider, you listen to me' type of deal? ANy help is appreciated.. thanks KT __________________ "If you use it, it is construtive criticism. If you dont, its just criticism.."

07-02-2009, 12:14 PM	#2
kmdstar Senior Member+ Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 2,028 Images: 108	Taking the horse on walks (like a dog, not riding ), lots of desensitizing helped with Starlite, handgrazing. That's all I got for now, I'm sure I'll be back with more later. __________________ starlite (9 yo standardbred/qh) dream (24 yo morgan) our perfect companions never have fewer than four feet <3333

07-02-2009, 12:20 PM	#3
BKKain Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Beautiful British Columbia Posts: 1,085	To elaberate on "Desensitizing" , Getting your horse to walk over, under, through objects he wouldnt see on a regular basis. I found my horse really connected with me when he'd be experiencing something new, I'd put my hand on him and rub gently all the way down his back and all over, he really seemed to relax. Some other ideas, Round Pen work, Hand walking, Grooming, And perhaps just hanging out with him/her in their paddock,pasture,stall..What ever is available to you! Good Luck! __________________ Proud Owner Of Tex Proud Leaser of Frosty ... She's my drinkin' buddy She's got tight blue jeans Long blond hair And she's a cowboy's dream She can knock em back Shot for shot like you've never seen....

07-02-2009, 01:55 PM	#4
GottaRide Senior Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Stiles Jct, WI Posts: 433 Images: 2	Every horse will have a different personality that goes beyond the "you're a horse, I'm a rider" relationship. Sometimes all we can really ask for is that sort of relationship, but other times there will be a horse that connects with you a lot deeper. I think it's up to the horse to let that deeper connection grow. That being said, there are some things that you can do to show the horse that you are someone he can trust & look to for guidance. I like The Bonder from www.marvwalker.com. I also like the 7 Games from Parelli. I think these philosophies create a better connection between horse & handler than simply brushing or sitting in a pasture will do. Good luck & Enjoy your horse! __________________ Cedar View Paint Horses Proud member of the Paint Club Home to ~ Catch Me Dreamin - 2007 APHA chestnut tobiano gelding Hanks Rainy Sky - 1998 black & white tobiano Paint gelding Megas Doctor Time - 2004 sorrel overo gelding

07-02-2009, 03:05 PM	#6
Bruce Wiley Senior Member+ Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Southern California Posts: 2,055	Your proper handling and training hopely will influence the forming. What I have notice over the years of training horses they want to know they have a real leader type that will convey and convince them of what is acceptable & not acceptable behaviors. Having the right and timely corrections will weight heavy in whether the horse submit and accept your authority as his leader. Trust and the bond is the every last thing they turn over to us. Its comes from our proper handling and directions of them and its the horse call and this is totally up to the horse, when or whether the bond will take it place between humans and them in a good relationship togather. Find and get with an indivdual that has a good relationship with their horse. The evident of a good bond should be easily seen and present in their relationship. Ask the indivdual to show and exlpain to you how to go about creating a positive bond with a horse and hopely they are able to assist in your learning process. I hope this insight helps. __________________ http://bwnaturalhorsemanship.spaces.live.com/ Bruce.

07-02-2009, 02:23 PM	#5
Maisie Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 525 Images: 18	As well as grooming & round pen pen work, I talk to my horses whenever I am with them & sometimes even sing ! I also spend time just hanging out with them & showing them affection ... it really works with my two , & one was a rescue who was terrified of everything ... he now follows me around like a dog less than a year after I got him.

07-02-2009, 03:15 PM	#7
phoenixfyre71 Senior Member+ Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Moody, Al Posts: 2,562 Images: 6	I spent quiet time with Aslan when I got him. Just "being" in the pasture with him, sitting in a round pen minding my own business when he was in there. He seemed to warm to me quickly that way. Sometimes it is not always about "doing" but "being". __________________ For what do we live, but to make sport for our neighbours, and laugh at them in our turn? Pride and Prejudice "Evil will always triumph over good because good is dumb" Dark Helmet-Space Balls

07-02-2009, 11:20 PM	#8
John Senior Member+ Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: B.C. Canada Posts: 3,735 Images: 60	Make him work. Be fair but he must do what you ask when you ask. When he feels that you are doing a good job of being his leader he will begin to trust you. Bruce has it right.

07-02-2009, 11:22 PM	#9
Jess! Senior Member+ Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: SoCal Posts: 11,229 Images: 75	Kandee and I bonded over time. When I first got her I wasn't too impressed, but over time it just...happened. It's not something you can rush, and it doesn't happen all the time. But that mare is MY mare, and I am HER person. She loves me, and you can tell. All I did was spend lots of time talking to her. Every time I fed, brushed, or rode I carried on full conversations. I still treated her as a horse, but she was talked to a LOT. I think that really, really helps. __________________ (¯`·._¤ Jess!·._¤ ´¯) ♥ Haute Couture Arabians♥ Purebred and Half Arabian Endurance Horses

07-02-2009, 11:29 PM	#10
Roxi&Bingo Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Southeast MI Posts: 744 Images: 27	I know just kind of 'playing around' with Roxi helped. By this I mean free lunging her, and then letting her come up to me and I'd make a noise and she'd run and just play. We both enjoyed it __________________ "Never ride faster than your guardian angel can fly." Rosebud's Roxanne Roll - Roxi

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