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    Thumbs up Don't allow anyone to make you feel inferior!

    This is a bit of an add on to cassidy's thread on freedom of speech. I actually got the idea from a Lifetime movie I just watched, Lifetime can be good sometimes lol, called "to be fat like me" about a popular pretty jock going undercover as an overweight girl at a different school to video tape how they reacted. Showing how we judge those who are different without even knowing them, who they truly are on the inside. We beat them down so much that they feel they can't even defend themselves and that makes everyone who does it feel even better about doing it, like their high and mighty.

    Why is it that different is so bad? Yes, it may be unhealthy to be overweight but that's all. It doesn't give anyone, no matter who they are, the right to make you feel inferior. There's a quote that says "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" and it's entirely true. It's hard, I know, to stand up to those who challenge expecially when you feel stepped on but that;s exactly when you should rise and not take it. I'm not saying beat the **** out of anyone who makes you feel bad, I don't want to find out someone got thrown in jail for this. lol. I'm saying to stand up for yourself, HAVE CONFIDENCE! Nothing is greater than confidence, and believing in yourself is all you need.

    The media and so many other places put such a huge stress on being thin, being perfect and it's not like that. Be perfect in your own eyes, not what you see on tv and in magazines. They age for eating disorders is getting lower and lower as the years go on. 3 year olds who don't even know what fat is are saying how they hate their bodies and think they are fat, AT THREE! Girls and boys of all ages are suffering from poor body image and thousands suffer from eating disorders because of the stress to be perfect in everyway. People die from it everyday... Organs fail, the heart fails, the body gives up and shuts down... It's horrible and it gets to the point that they can't even control it anymore and it becomes fight for their loves, literally! I know what it feels like personally. I went through so many years hating everything about myself. My waist needed to be small when it already was, my legs were too big when they really weren't, my face was too puggy when it wasn't at all. I would look in the mirror and hate what looked back everyday, it ran my life up until my senior year of highschool when I finally helped myself and I'm proud to say I no longer look into the mirror and see someone I hate looking back.

    We've even turned anorexia and bulimia into stereotypes when we see a skinny girl we don't know, or even know!

    For me, the way I dress is not different. I'm what many people whould classify as a "preppy girl". I like the way I dress, not because it's popular but because I love the clothes. It's just who I am. Back at college my friends and I were sitting around in the dorms talking and we got to talking about what everyone first impressions were of everyone. For me, they all thought I was the typical bossy, judgemental, drama run girl who has had everything handed to her and who only cared about the material items and herself. They all thought I was the girl out their at the games, cheering. They got to know me though and found out I was the complete opposite. Yes, I love Express, AE, Abercrombie, Guess and Jewlery from Tiffany and even the stuff from Guicci (I just eye it though, I could NEVER afford it lol) but the clothes and how you look do not make the person. I may dress like one of the self obsessed cheerleaders, not saying all cheerleaders are like that either, but I can actually be a huge geek (I love Astronomy and sit down and watch Nova, Discovery channel, and such all the time) who judges people on how they are on the inside and I'm a very kind person and I'm very independent. I'm always willing to help and would rather buy things and pay my bills with my own money then have my parents handle it all for me.

    The point is, no matter if you're what people would call a jock, goth, punk, geek, burn out, or prep that does not make you who you are. If you are part of the "popular" crowd and feel you have to dumb yourself down to fit in, don't! Push yourself, don't dumb yourself down to fit in. If your friends need you to be a dunce to be with you then are they really friends you want? Foreverone out there, don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself! Don't let people make you feel fat, depressed, low, or anything else.

    Be who you are, not who everyone wants you to be. Fitting in means nothing, so long as you are happy with who you are. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in, don't ever let someone make you feel like you don't deserve to be happy.

    I know it's easier said than done, trust me I know far too well! It's just something to keep in mind though.

    Here's a little quote for everyone... I really love it, it's from the movie.

    The world will tell you who you are, until you tell the world!


    (P.S.I apologize for this being way too long! lol)
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    GREAT post! I agree 150%. It's hard not to feel inferior, especially when it's repetitive from one person or a group of people. For example my sister always says how fat I am (I'm 5'3 and 114.2lbs, fat my b*tt), how I'll probably never go to the college I want to go to and will probably just end up at OSU (Oregon State that is), and will always contradict what I say. It is hard to not feel inferior. No doubt about it.
    Quote Originally Posted by JumpsxGlory
    The point is, no matter if you're what people would call a jock, goth, punk, geek, burn out, or prep that does not make you who you are. If you are part of the "popular" crowd and feel you have to dumb yourself down to fit in, don't! Push yourself, don't dumb yourself down to fit in. If your friends need you to be a dunce to be with you then are they really friends you want?

    Be who you are, not who everyone wants you to be. Fitting in means nothing, so long as you are happy with who you are. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in, don't ever let someone make you feel like you don't deserve to be happy.
    I was in a situation just like the one mentioned above. I was one of the preps, and had a huge group of friends. However, I wasn't really a prep at heart. I guess I wanted to fit in with the friends I had since preschool, but they really weren't the same people I had grown up with. They acted stupid to get attention, and threw themselves all over guys. That was not me, so I didn't allow myself to be that way. Eventually there was this conflict that occured, and I separated from the group. Now with my newer friends, I can be myself, and not worry about being judged by them. There is NO drama, nothing. We do debate, and have disagreements, but it never reaches an emotional level. I have only retained one friend from that first group, and she separated from the group about two years after I did. I do get along with the first group now, and talk to them occasionally.

    Wow WAY off topic there. Sorry.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gotta a horse
    GREAT post! I agree 150%. It's hard not to feel inferior, especially when it's repetitive from one person or a group of people. For example my sister always says how fat I am (I'm 5'3 and 114.2lbs, fat my b*tt), how I'll probably never go to the college I want to go to and will probably just end up at OSU (Oregon State that is), and will always contradict what I say. It is hard to not feel inferior. No doubt about it.

    I was in a situation just like the one mentioned above. I was one of the preps, and had a huge group of friends. However, I wasn't really a prep at heart. I guess I wanted to fit in with the friends I had since preschool, but they really weren't the same people I had grown up with. They acted stupid to get attention, and threw themselves all over guys. That was not me, so I didn't allow myself to be that way. Eventually there was this conflict that occured, and I separated from the group. Now with my newer friends, I can be myself, and not worry about being judged by them. There is NO drama, nothing. We do debate, and have disagreements, but it never reaches an emotional level. I have only retained one friend from that first group, and she separated from the group about two years after I did. I do get along with the first group now, and talk to them occasionally.

    Wow WAY off topic there. Sorry.
    Not off topic at all. No worries.

    Yea, I know what you mean. It's hard not to be beaten down when you have people telling you all the time how you wont make it and such. I'm sorry your sisters like that. Can't be easy. Really though, you'll get into the college you want and you are far from fat! Geez, you're like 5 pounds thiner than I am!
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    BUMP! I think this would be a good thing for people to read.
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    I'll read your whole post later, don't really have time at work, but it seems like a good topic. Was that a good movie? I wanted to see it, but forgot to ask my mom to record it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moo
    I'll read your whole post later, don't really have time at work, but it seems like a good topic. Was that a good movie? I wanted to see it, but forgot to ask my mom to record it.
    Yea, it was actually pretty good. Most Lifetime movies are so cheesy with teh cheating, murder, and all that other crazy stuff! It was good though, I'd say to sit down and watch it next time it's on.
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    Okay, just read the whole post. Glad you posted it. It's really quite sad how people feel they need to fit in. I'm not skinny by any means, I'm 5'9" and weigh 175 pounds, but if someone told me I was fat I'd probably laugh at them. I'm extremely active and would probably challenge them to a run. Of course I'd like to lose a few pounds, but only b/c I know it'd make it easier on my knees for running, if I weigh much more than I do, then I get schin splints from the weight I'm carrying. As far as clothes go, I do like to dress up and look cute sometimes, but I'm usually happy in a sweatshirt and jeans or shorts. Even when I do dress up it's for myself and not b/c I want to fit in. Usually my idea of cute is different than others.

    I hope others read this post and learn something from it.

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    Nice post. Mad me feel better after a stressful day. Thankyou.

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    yep great thought there

    everyone is to quick to judge especially on first glances...

    people should be allowed to prove who they are before they are judged
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    Great post and so true,as the saying goes,you don't know me till you walk in my shoes,I try not to get a opinion about anyone till they show me who they are.I try to give everyone the benefit of a doubt,and what is outside of a person,is not what is important,its whats on the inside that counts.

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