Does age matter in a relationship? KIDS ONLY

jade HEre · 10-22-2009, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Haflinger_Lover

Wow this is getting pretty crazy. Perhaps, and i realize your her closest friend and don't want to see her get hurt, but to maybe just step back and let it just go the way itll go. If something happens then maybe she'll learn from it? Its hard to say because i've never experienced such a situation. But i would definetly tell your parents about it at some point. I really hope things get better in this situation for you !!!

i think i will take your advice and just step back and let things run there course thanks everyone for your helpful advice, much appreciated

Hoosier Jumper · 10-22-2009, 06:48 PM

I've seen this happen before if your friend is going to choice a boy over you then she's diff. not your friend. Thats very disturbing that a 14 year old is going out with a 20 year old. Rumors will start and she will have a bad reputation and if you hang out with her it will tag along with you. I had a friend that it happened to her, her friend was a hum..."riskay" when it came to relationships and even though my friend was not the reputation was tagged onto her. Just be careful and let it play out, remember though, always be their for her if she needs it.

horse_crazee · 10-23-2009, 05:17 AM

wow... well a lot has already been said previously that i can agree with.
But i can only add - if he really loved her he should allow her time .. time to grow more and experience he should also wait cause then it would be more appropriate, even looking at the age gap. It would more appropriate when she is older and the gap can still be the same. If he can't do that then that can't be healthy.. :\

i agree with hoosier jumper's advice

Does your friend actually say she "loves" him ?
she could be getting mixed up with infatuation

jade HEre · 10-23-2009, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by horse_crazee

wow... well a lot has already been said previously that i can agree with.
But i can only add - if he really loved her he should allow her time .. time to grow more and experience he should also wait cause then it would be more appropriate, even looking at the age gap. It would more appropriate when she is older and the gap can still be the same. If he can't do that then that can't be healthy.. :

i agree with hoosier jumper's advice

Does your friend actually say she "loves" him ?
she could be getting mixed up with infatuation

she says she loves him.......but i think you could be right she is most likely getting it mixed up with infatuation thanks everyone for your advice....thanks hoosier jumper, i will try not to get the bad name she might get

minihorses4ever · 10-23-2009, 03:50 PM

Why don't you get your parents to call hers expressing their concern for her boyfriend? Her parents may take that a bit more seriously. I definitely wouldn't let the situation play out on its own though.

If I were you, I wouldn't stop until I knew that guy was out of her life. I love my best friends, and I would never let them keep themselves in a potentially harmful situation like that.

TB4life · 10-23-2009, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by minihorses4ever

Why don't you get your parents to call hers expressing their concern for her boyfriend? Her parents may take that a bit more seriously. I definitely wouldn't let the situation play out on its own though.

If I were you, I wouldn't stop until I knew that guy was out of her life. I love my best friends, and I would never let them keep themselves in a potentially harmful situation like that.

Agreed 100 %.

jade HEre · 10-23-2009, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by TB4life

Agreed 100 %.

yer i will try to convince them now

TB4life · 10-23-2009, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by jade HEre

yer i will try to convince them now

You are a good friend for not giving up!

jade HEre · 10-23-2009, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by TB4life

You are a good friend for not giving up!

thanks for that and your great advice my mum is on the phone to my friends dad right now....i will let you know the result

TB4life · 10-23-2009, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by jade HEre

thanks for that and your great advice my mum is on the phone to my friends dad right now....i will let you know the result

They still on the phone?

10-22-2009, 06:48 PM	#32
Hoosier Jumper Full Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 162	I've seen this happen before if your friend is going to choice a boy over you then she's diff. not your friend. Thats very disturbing that a 14 year old is going out with a 20 year old. Rumors will start and she will have a bad reputation and if you hang out with her it will tag along with you. I had a friend that it happened to her, her friend was a hum..."riskay" when it came to relationships and even though my friend was not the reputation was tagged onto her. Just be careful and let it play out, remember though, always be their for her if she needs it. __________________ If I did not have my horses, I would not have a life.

10-23-2009, 03:50 PM	#35
minihorses4ever Senior Member+ Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: TX Posts: 1,552 Images: 28	Why don't you get your parents to call hers expressing their concern for her boyfriend? Her parents may take that a bit more seriously. I definitely wouldn't let the situation play out on its own though. If I were you, I wouldn't stop until I knew that guy was out of her life. I love my best friends, and I would never let them keep themselves in a potentially harmful situation like that. __________________ -Bre Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.

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10-23-2009, 05:17 AM	#33
horse_crazee Registered User Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 1,748 Images: 147	wow... well a lot has already been said previously that i can agree with. But i can only add - if he really loved her he should allow her time .. time to grow more and experience he should also wait cause then it would be more appropriate, even looking at the age gap. It would more appropriate when she is older and the gap can still be the same. If he can't do that then that can't be healthy.. :\ i agree with hoosier jumper's advice Does your friend actually say she "loves" him ? she could be getting mixed up with infatuation

Does age matter in a relationship? **KIDS ONLY**

Does age matter in a relationship? KIDS ONLY