[JumpsxGlory]

The title says it all... To you, do looks matter? Even a litte bit.

IMO, I think anyone who says they don't is lying. lol. You have to have that physical attraction, usually that's what attracts you at first anyways IF you have never meet the person.

What do you think?

[Jess!]

Yes, looks matter to me. I like a person who has good hygine. Hair cut, shaved [or trimmed nicely], clean, well-fitting clothes, and just looks like they take care of themselves.

Okay okay, and good looks matter to me, too. It's what I notice first about the person, before they open their mouth to speak to me.

[EquineJessie]

Yes definitely. Although I'd say 90% of it is presentation and attitude.

Someone that's happy and smiling is very attractive and looks great even if they're not that good looking. And, someone that takes pride in the way they present themselves says a lot. It's a lot more than inherent good looks but facial expression, attitude, and they way they present themselves.

[arabgirl15]

Yes. Very much so.

[Heavenly Jumper]

I think that we all have differing opinions of what looks nice to us, but no one wants to be around a person who doesn't take care of themselves. The newest clothes or fanciest style doesn't matter to me, but talk to me with a mouth full of dirty smelly teeth and I am out of there. ICK! If it is a purely physical kind of opinion, yes. There are things that I look for in a friend, but I try really hard not to judge someone based solely on that. I have been judged before and I know that it hurts...

[DressageGirl]

I think as you get older looks matter less....

I think you start appreciating people for a sense of humour, honesty, intrigrity etc, and all those qualities make people attractive even if they arent physically attractive.

I do notice looks in the opposite sex, but I also look for a great smile, and a friendly, honest, warm personality.

You can have the best looking guy in the world, but if doesnt have the personality to back it up, then I dont want him

[nanenj]

No, they don't. If you put the most deformed pile of sludge in front of me and it was able to keep me captivated mentally, I'd be very happy with that. Looks just have no effect on me, of course, that's probably because I'm not much of a looker in the first place and would rather someone judge me on my stronger aspects myself. Treat others as you'd want to be treated.

To those looks do matter too, think about what would happen if you had an accident in which your face was deformed, would you really want your significant other to be so shallow that they'd leave now that your ugly?

[Jess!]

Originally Posted by nanenj

No, they don't. If you put the most deformed pile of sludge in front of me and it was able to keep me captivated mentally, I'd be very happy with that. Looks just have no effect on me, of course, that's probably because I'm not much of a looker in the first place and would rather someone judge me on my stronger aspects myself. Treat others as you'd want to be treated.

To those looks do matter too, think about what would happen if you had an accident in which your face was deformed, would you really want your significant other to be so shallow that they'd leave now that your ugly?

I'm not sure how fair that is. Like the OP said, most of us judge on looks at first sight. Once you're married, you've fallen in love with who that person is on the inside. At least, if you have any sort of good marriage, that is.

[JumpsxGlory]

Originally Posted by nanenj

No, they don't. If you put the most deformed pile of sludge in front of me and it was able to keep me captivated mentally, I'd be very happy with that. Looks just have no effect on me, of course, that's probably because I'm not much of a looker in the first place and would rather someone judge me on my stronger aspects myself. Treat others as you'd want to be treated.

To those looks do matter too, think about what would happen if you had an accident in which your face was deformed, would you really want your significant other to be so shallow that they'd leave now that your ugly?

I'm not saying that looks are ALL that matter, just if they play a role at all. That would be very shallow to say that looks are the onlky thing that matters.

If he was truly my husband, then I would hope he would love me for more than my looks.

[EquineJessie]

nanenj, I think it's two things we're talking about here. First off, I definitely find better looking people more attractive than not so great looking people. The great looking guy who's smart, and really nice and considerate is really attractive. The overweight guy who's dirty, twice my age, and missing nearlly all his teeth that's hitting on me -- that's gross and repulsive.

But, if I get married to someone, I'm sticking for life. Doesn't matter if the guy becomes a quadriplegic. Or he gets kicked in the face and is missing all his teeth.

First off you're attracted outwardly. That can grow till you're attracted to who the person is, not what they look like.