[LifeIsGrand]

I just need to VENT.
And if you get passed the first paragraph, and respond, KUDOS TO YOU!


Let out some of what I'm feeling right now.


So I'm a junior in highschool and I have matured and changed a LOT since freshman year. For one thing I have accepted who I am, what I look like and I have confidence in myself now more thanI have have. I've grown from my mistakes and become a stronger person but once again I am finding myself weak.

I used to literally hate myself. I hated everything about me. EVERYTHING! After a while I got over it and also found myself upset because no boy liked me. Not a single one. I didn't know why no boys liked me (now I know...)

Well here I am junior year. I've had one boyfriend (HORRIBLE EXPERIENCE! Girls DON'T DATE DRUG USERS! )
And now I know what I want in a guy, and I'm finding myself being pretty friendly and flirty to whoever I talk to. (Except the guy I like. )


So I ran into a problem where one of my best guy friends really liked me and I really wasn't interested in him like that.... so he finally moved on, I guess and gave me a talk saying how he just wants to be friends and doesn't want things to be awkward.

I was so relieved that things were back to normal... then WHAM!!! Another boy likes me. Whhat?!?!? When did all this happen?!!? When did guys start to actually LIKE me?!?! I am shocked, to say the least. Don't know why a guy would like me but ....


This boy is a freshman. And very um... physically immature, I guess. Sort of still pre-pubescent..haha But he's a sweet sweet kid! I am not completely shutting him down, but ....

I just can't bring myself to go out with a boy so much younger than me and who phsically and mentally immature.

So... he hasn't told me that he likes me, but GAWD I hope he doesn't. I really am not in the mood to reject someone as sweet as him. I'd give it a year and then maybe see how he is and how he's grown (physically and mentally...haha)

Now, My other situation.... I REALLY like one of my best guy friends. REALLY. A part of me wants to tell him, but another part of me is saying don't risk the friendship. I can't tell if he likes me or not. He seems to send mixed signals but most of the time I get the feeling he's not interested in me.

I could move on, but really... I can't until I know. And I don't want to lose him as a friend if I tell him and he rejects me. I am torn. I am depressed. I hate all these problems and which they would go away.


What do I do?

[K Riding Girl]

i had the last part happen to me - the liking one of your best guy friends - but last year he seemed to like me - so this year i made a move to a new lunch group (the one that has him in it. lol.) and i went ahead and asked him to the upcoming dance... i feel like at the time he was just doing this cuz hes hella nice and he didnt know how to say no - but later my friends went up to him saying that he should ask me out cuz i really liked him

and then later that night i got a txt from him about what my friends said and that he did want to take me out some time lol, like the happiest day of my life LOL

lol yuppsss


i think you should ask your friends to ask the guy you like what he thinks of you and tell them to tell him to ask you out and have them say "oh she really wants to ask you out, but she doesnt want it to ruin your friendship if you say no" and stuff like that

and if he says no - just move on and pretend like nothing ever happend

[LifeIsGrand]

Okay, Im going to wait a bit and see how things play out between us. Lately he's been alot more friendly toward me, but not really. He's hard to understand and read, a little cryptic... Haha

[K Riding Girl]

haha, good luckkkk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[clara17]

good luck with that...
i've had to shut down one of my guy friends who liked me and it wasn't a fun experience. i felt really bad.

now i'm in the i like my best guy friend situation but i keep telling myself nothing is going to happen so i don't make a move lol

ugh guys...i will never understand them

[SweetChilli]

Hmm i don't know. I mean if you are getting the impression that he's not interested maybe just wait a while and see how things work out but on the other hand if he starts to give the impression that he may be interested maybe you should drop a few subtle hints, and flirt back or whatever, and see what happens then.

I wouldn't just come out and tell him right at this minute, because like you said you don't want to ruin the friendship.

And the young guy thing, lol thats kinda difficult, i can see why you wouldn't want to date someone who is younger than you lol, guys need to be the same age or older, they are just to immature otherwise :P (unless they are like already adults lol). If he says something maybe just say, its really nice of him but you are not really interested in dating atm, or something nice hehe.

If you don't mind me asking why didn't the guys like you before (you don't have to tell me, its just im curious, cos no guys seem to like me at all... but im kinda over being bothered by it if im honest)

[LifeIsGrand]

Guys didn't like me before because looking back I was pretty um.. undeveloped and immature and naive, and I looked sort of funny. It took a while for me to find peace with myself and my appearance and gain some self confidence because before, I was very prude and had low self esteem.

[TeeK987]

I daited a very good freind of mine. We were very involved in the relationship, and when it finally ended, i was heart broken. Still am..
Dont risk a good freindship, cause if the bf/gf relationship ends badly, your sc.rewed... Sorry to say. And i would rather have a good freind, then a bf ANY day...
As far as the youngin goes... I couldnt tell ya, i always date older.. (by like a 1 to 3 yrs...)