[PaintedRocket]

My boyfriend and I have been back together for over a year (long story ) and when I first met him, I met him And his friend. We have all gotten along really well and have hung out quite often. I've always thought his friend was a pretty cool guy, except he's very spoiled and a bit inconsiderate of others. I never had a problem with him.

I just found out yesterday at work that he's saying things about me that are untrue. A friend of mine that I work with has a friend who works with Cameron (my boyfriend's friend). They all went out to lunch a few weeks ago and when Maegen told Cameron that she works with me, he started saying how he doesn't even like me, how I spend all of our money (Mine and Casey's.. BUT we have seperate accounts and split everything 50/50), that I'm lazy and don't do anything around the house, how I'm a b**** to Casey, and that I spend all my time with horses .

What makes me mad about this is that I do SO MUCH for this kid!! When we go out to dinner or lunch.. I have picked up the bill MANY times and PAID for his meals. He's only done that ONCE and made us pay him back for it. I welcome him into our home and envite him to movies with us. Last week, we went out and he got roaring drunk. I let him spend the night AND I cleaned up his throw up when he hurled on the stairs in front of my apartment. I've ALWAYS said good things about him, and this is how I am repaid!! I'm sick of being so nice to people and don't tolerate this talk. My friend wouldn't make something like this up, she doesn't even know this guy and he's telling her things like this about me. I used to let people walk all over me, but I put my foot down and I'm putting it down hard now.I honestly think he's jealous that Casey and I spend our time together when they used to hang out all the time..when Casey was single. This isn't the first time I've heard this either, my friend Crystal has told me similar things that Cameron has said.

I told Casey that Cameron is no longer welcome to our apartment if he's going to be bad mouthing me and disrespecting me like he has. Casey doesn't think Cameron is the "type" of person to say these things, but I've heard him talk about so many people behind their backs when he would say that they were friends. I'm just so mad and hurt about being taken advantage of... I hate that feeling and it just p*sses me off even more.. I have a nasty temper so I sure hope Casey doesn't bring him over ( they're hanging out together right now because Casey is buying a car from Cameron.. )...

Sorry for the long vent, but I'm just fuming mad and my boyfriend doesn't seem to really care at the moment.. because his friend is SOooo angelic..

[Jess!]

Man, I know how you feel. Mike [my now husband, we were married in june] has a friend like that who is HORRIBLE. Mike is in bootcamp, and chris [his friend] will call me up all the time and tell me how I treat Mike so horribly, that I'm a *****, that Mike cares more for him than for me, and all these other stuff.

Stuff like that HURTS. You need to confront him, and tell him to knock it off. And talk to your boyfriend about it.

[hossluva]

I'd stay away from him, at all times. I hope your BF sees your side....

[3WishesDun]

Blow it off Renee--anyone who talks about people to someone who knows/likes them wants it to get back to you... He is probably trying to start problems between you and your boyfriend because he is jealous of your relationship...I would bet $$$ that he doesn't have a girlfriend either--so your boyfriend not having one would make him very happy. Just smile, and realize his immature petty tactics will not work- and ofcourse do not go out of your way for him. Take a deep breath...he's not worth your emotion.

[PaintedRocket]

Originally Posted by 3WishesDun

Blow it off Renee--anyone who talks about people to someone who knows/likes them wants it to get back to you... He is probably trying to start problems between you and your boyfriend because he is jealous of your relationship...I would bet $$$ that he doesn't have a girlfriend either--so your boyfriend not having one would make him very happy. Just smile, and realize his immature petty tactics will not work- and ofcourse do not go out of your way for him. Take a deep breath...he's not worth your emotion.

You're right, he doesn't. His g/f of over a year broke up with him and started dating some other guy...and when I think about it, I really understand why and I sympathize what she had to put up with.

Thanks for helping me realize a bit more. Should I still not allow him at our place? I really dont want him here. He comes into our room and just gets on the computer, without asking, when I was already on it..and just stuff like that.

[horse_luvr83]

ya know what?? Jason had a friend that did thet to me, you know what their deal is?? JEALOUSY that they dont have anyone. Jason's friend would invite him to go out, and jason would say i was coming, and he'd try to get jaosn to find ways to shrug me off, or tell jaosn to not worry about it if i was coming. i finally got fed up with it, and told jason that his friend wasn't allowed around me anymore if he wanted to act like that! i honestly believe it's a jealousy thing though b/c his friend could NEVER get a g/f or anything. just keep your chin up, but i agree, if he can be 2-faced like that, until he straightens up and is more appreciative i wouldn't let him at your house either!

[PaintsRBest]

You need to tell Cameron that you don't enjoy him saying those things. THen remind him of all the good you've done for him (hwlping him when drunk, paying for meals, being nice, ect.) and if he laughs or brushes it off or makes some snide remark, I'd tell him face to face that I (wich in your case would be YOU....lol) love Casey very much and that I'm not going to let you (Cameron) come between us...SO, you are from now on forbidden to step foot in our apartment unless you change your ways. If he says something like "Does Casey want me out?" then I'd go the honest route and tell him that you're going to talk to him tonight. Another option could be to take him and Casey out to lunch or invite Cameron over and all sit down and talk about it. Oh, and if you do the first one, make sure you do it in a nice tone so as to not make him think you ahte him, just that you're hurt. Oh yeah, and that DOES sound very rude...maybe you should set time to do something with your friends and let them have some time to themselves wach week or so ( I know you said that you always invite him with you guys, but that's still not alone time for him and Casey)

[Jess!]

I'm going to agree with the above posters - it's JEALOUSY that's causing it.

Mike's friend is soooo jealous of us, he tries to do EVERYTHING he can to make our lives miserable. Unfortuantly, since MIke is in boot camp, I'm the one he pesters all the time until I'm bawling my eyes out.

[PaintsRBest]

You guys are right, maybe she should just brush it off. Next time he says something like that to you just grin and laugh.

[3WishesDun]

That's a tough one...personally I wouldn't- he has proven himself not to be a nice person....just wondering if it will put a wedge between you and your boyfriend though....because this is what this loser wants....- if you do allow him to come over- I would clearly/calmly/firmly tell him what he can and cannot do...and that you are very disappointed in his backstabbing ways. Don't ever let someone like that have the power to jer.k your chain..that is what they crave....you will be so much better off...and it will drive him nuts if you just act nonchalant about it...but let him know you see him for what he really is.... does that make sense?