Big dilemma!!!

Solly Jumper · 03-28-2007, 01:21 PM

So, here's the story:

I wanted to ride at this other barn because I wasn't happy at my old one. Once I found out this new barn is twice as expensive, I brought up the idea of working on the weekends for half off of the month's payment. My dad seemed to think that the owner of this new barn wouldn't agree to that, since she doesn't even know me. HOWEVER, I was talking to some of her students and they said they REALLY need help on Saturdays. But before I found this out, I e-mailed my old coach and asked her if she had any room for me to come back on Saturdays.

Now, I have no idea what to do. I wanted to try out this new barn SO badly because it had so many advantages in comparison to my old barn... but now, if this deal does work with the new barn, I'll feel SO terrible about e-mailing my old coach and then changing my mind...

This is my payment idea for my parents if I do ride at the new barn:

I work every Saturday before and/or after my lesson for half off the month payment
Since half of $170 is $85, I could pay $15 a month and you pay $75 like you did at Meadowvale
OR I can pay $40 (instead of giving my allowance) a month and you pay $45

horse_lover231 · 03-28-2007, 01:36 PM

If you are not happy with where you are now and you like this other place. I would deffinatly go for it and ask! Can't hurt. Also if they say they need help at that barn then I would ask soon I'm sure you will get it. I hope everything works out for you.

Solly Jumper · 03-28-2007, 01:46 PM

Thanks so much. It's just dealing with the guilt of not returning to my old barn that will be hard. If I show this season, it would be so awkward seeing my old coach there.

ARMwins · 03-28-2007, 01:53 PM

i say go, you dont wanna be unhappy!

Solly Jumper · 03-28-2007, 01:57 PM

That's what everyone is saying, haha. I agree totally, but I can't help feeling bad. Plus, the new barn has so many more reliable school horses available. I just don't know when I should bring it up with my dad because he knows I already e-mailed my old coach, so I don't want him to get mad at me for screwing up.

Solly Jumper · 03-28-2007, 04:43 PM

Anyone else have any advice or input?

ajsck5 · 03-28-2007, 04:49 PM

My advice is to follow your heart. I believe you already have your answer, but don't want to hurt feelings. ASk yourself this.... Which barn will give me more opportunities to learn and grow as a horse person? (I do believe you already answered this.) Then explain to your dad your reasonings. I would think he would understand.
I hope this helps.

03-28-2007, 01:21 PM	#1
Solly Jumper Senior Member+ Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,714 Images: 183 Blog Entries: 3	Big dilemma!!! So, here's the story: I wanted to ride at this other barn because I wasn't happy at my old one. Once I found out this new barn is twice as expensive, I brought up the idea of working on the weekends for half off of the month's payment. My dad seemed to think that the owner of this new barn wouldn't agree to that, since she doesn't even know me. HOWEVER, I was talking to some of her students and they said they REALLY need help on Saturdays. But before I found this out, I e-mailed my old coach and asked her if she had any room for me to come back on Saturdays. Now, I have no idea what to do. I wanted to try out this new barn SO badly because it had so many advantages in comparison to my old barn... but now, if this deal does work with the new barn, I'll feel SO terrible about e-mailing my old coach and then changing my mind... This is my payment idea for my parents if I do ride at the new barn: I work every Saturday before and/or after my lesson for half off the month payment Since half of $170 is $85, I could pay $15 a month and you pay $75 like you did at Meadowvale OR I can pay $40 (instead of giving my allowance) a month and you pay $45 __________________ To ride a horse is to ride the sky

03-28-2007, 01:36 PM	#2
horse_lover231 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: in the barn Posts: 1,064 Images: 143	If you are not happy with where you are now and you like this other place. I would deffinatly go for it and ask! Can't hurt. Also if they say they need help at that barn then I would ask soon I'm sure you will get it. I hope everything works out for you. __________________ "We met as strangers, but now we are best friends and inseperable." Abby and Hielo May 27th 2006

03-28-2007, 01:46 PM	#3
Solly Jumper Senior Member+ Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,714 Images: 183 Blog Entries: 3	Thanks so much. It's just dealing with the guilt of not returning to my old barn that will be hard. If I show this season, it would be so awkward seeing my old coach there. __________________ To ride a horse is to ride the sky

03-28-2007, 01:53 PM	#4
ARMwins Senior Member+ Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: beside Chico Posts: 2,372 Images: 347 Blog Entries: 12	i say go, you dont wanna be unhappy! __________________ *PowerPackage ~QH Jumper*~ SCAD

03-28-2007, 01:57 PM	#5
Solly Jumper Senior Member+ Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,714 Images: 183 Blog Entries: 3	That's what everyone is saying, haha. I agree totally, but I can't help feeling bad. Plus, the new barn has so many more reliable school horses available. I just don't know when I should bring it up with my dad because he knows I already e-mailed my old coach, so I don't want him to get mad at me for screwing up. __________________ To ride a horse is to ride the sky

03-28-2007, 04:43 PM	#6
Solly Jumper Senior Member+ Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,714 Images: 183 Blog Entries: 3	Anyone else have any advice or input? __________________ To ride a horse is to ride the sky

03-28-2007, 04:49 PM	#7
ajsck5 Full Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: North Florida Posts: 136 Images: 28	My advice is to follow your heart. I believe you already have your answer, but don't want to hurt feelings. ASk yourself this.... Which barn will give me more opportunities to learn and grow as a horse person? (I do believe you already answered this.) Then explain to your dad your reasonings. I would think he would understand. I hope this helps.

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