2nd Marriage...Bridal Shower?

Thrills · 06-06-2006, 10:46 AM

My older sister is getting remarried this october, and I was wondering what the ettiquete (sp?) is regarding if I should throw her a bridal shower.

this is a second marriage for both of them. My sister's first marriage was 10 years ago, so its not as if people would be buying her shower presents twice in a short time period, and she hangs out with a completely different group of friend anyways....but...

They live together and have just about everything.... she said that she was unsure of how she was going to register for wedding presents since she doesn;t need anything.-so what would people get her for a shower gift?

My mom and I really not sure what we should do.

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

kashmirjumper · 06-06-2006, 10:48 AM

Maybe no gifts at the shower?
You could just make it a get together type of thing.

Blistering Winds · 06-06-2006, 10:48 AM

hmmm...I didn't have a shower for either of mine. So dunno.

Does she want a shower? you don't have to have one.

Varisha · 06-06-2006, 10:49 AM

They could list thier favorite charities and people donate to that in honor of the marrage.

HawaiianPaint · 06-06-2006, 10:52 AM

I have no idea what the actual 'rules' are around it, but personally I'd just work it out with her. If she feels like she'd like to have one then people will always figure out what to bring

If she doesn't know, then have her talk to her friends, the ones that would be invited to the shower etc and see what kind of interest there is.

There are places that she can register for a honeymoon registry...have people buy them things on their cruise etc instead of actually spending money going to a store to get them another blender. People can always use money right? So gift cards etc or come up with a project that her and her fiance want to work on. My roommate's best friend got married not too long ago and they are building a house so their request was that instead of wedding presents they wanted gift cards to lowes and home depot etc. everyone thought it was a great idea. It kind of takes the pressure and importance off of the gifts and puts it on the couple, getting to know them, having fun at the reception etc. OR in the case of the honeymoon registry, being able to go on a really nice cruise or something instead of what they were planning on.

lovemyshy · 06-06-2006, 10:53 AM

In this day in age pretty much anything goes. If you want to throw your sister a bridal shower than go for it!! You could make it a theme type thing where the guests bring gifts in that theme, for example....a lingerie theme (lol, sorry that was the first thing that popped into my head).

As far as gifts for the actual wedding they could maybe put the word out that they need new furniture (who doesn't need some new furniture?? lol), and everyone could get gift certificates to a certain furniture store, or maybe everyone could get gift voutures to a travel agency. Seems like more and more newly weds just don't have the money for a nice honey moon anymore.

When Jay and I finally tie the knot I think we are going to put the word out that we would really like gift certificates to Canadian Tire so we can buy lots of camping gear seeing as we have a house that is already pretty much set up so we don't really need house hold appliances, or 20 different bath towel sets lol. I really don't see anything wrong with being specific about what you need, it really saves the stress of having to figure out what a newly wed needs, and saves the newly weds from storing stuff they didn't need.

Peg D · 06-06-2006, 10:55 AM

Have a passion party.

Thrills · 06-06-2006, 10:56 AM

these are some great ideas so far!

Keep them coming!

I would really like to do something nice for her.

honeydoozy · 06-06-2006, 10:56 AM

Any excuse for a party, I say!

Seriously, you could have a shower, but call it something different maybe. A bridal luncheon?

As for gifts, you could pick a theme or something... such as travel, if they're going on a honeymoon, or something that relates to an interest they both share.

I once went to something similar for a couple that were both going on their 2nd marriage (and in the "older" category). It was a couples thing, and everyone was encouraged to forego regular gifts, in favor of gift certificates to places - restaurants, theaters, attractions - whatever they thought the couple would enjoy. (and ideally something they haven't done, or haven't done in a while) I thought that was pretty inventive, and it did keep the couple busy for quite a while! ( no excuses not go get out and have FUN, that's for sure!)

I definitely think a "get together" is in order - but I think you really need to talk to the bride to see what level of celebration she's most comfortable with.

honeydoozy · 06-06-2006, 10:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Peg D

Have a passion party.

Like I said... the bride might have her own ideas of what FUN might be in order!

06-06-2006, 10:46 AM	#1
Thrills Senior Member+ Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 2,880 Images: 402 Blog Entries: 60	2nd Marriage...Bridal Shower? My older sister is getting remarried this october, and I was wondering what the ettiquete (sp?) is regarding if I should throw her a bridal shower. this is a second marriage for both of them. My sister's first marriage was 10 years ago, so its not as if people would be buying her shower presents twice in a short time period, and she hangs out with a completely different group of friend anyways....but... They live together and have just about everything.... she said that she was unsure of how she was going to register for wedding presents since she doesn;t need anything.-so what would people get her for a shower gift? My mom and I really not sure what we should do. Any suggestions would be appreciated. __________________ Some days you are the dog...some days the hydrant HR director of the FF Club

06-06-2006, 10:48 AM	#2
kashmirjumper Senior Member+ Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 1,069 Images: 1	Maybe no gifts at the shower? You could just make it a get together type of thing. __________________

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Blistering Winds Senior Member+ Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Augusta, Kansas Posts: 32,098 Images: 836 Blog Entries: 17	hmmm...I didn't have a shower for either of mine. So dunno. Does she want a shower? you don't have to have one. __________________ HGS is a very powerful, addicting place that is just as bad as cigarettes, however healthier for you AND your horse.

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Varisha Senior Member+ Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Mid - USA Posts: 2,247 Images: 117 Blog Entries: 1	They could list thier favorite charities and people donate to that in honor of the marrage. __________________ Please don't condemn me I chose not this path It was a part of me before my time began This path is not easy, why would I chose to walk it Please don't condemn me I chose not these emotions They are intertwined with my soul I can not but feel love for all of mankind

06-06-2006, 10:53 AM	#6
lovemyshy Senior Member+ Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: British Columbia Posts: 2,358 Images: 314 Blog Entries: 4	In this day in age pretty much anything goes. If you want to throw your sister a bridal shower than go for it!! You could make it a theme type thing where the guests bring gifts in that theme, for example....a lingerie theme (lol, sorry that was the first thing that popped into my head). As far as gifts for the actual wedding they could maybe put the word out that they need new furniture (who doesn't need some new furniture?? lol), and everyone could get gift certificates to a certain furniture store, or maybe everyone could get gift voutures to a travel agency. Seems like more and more newly weds just don't have the money for a nice honey moon anymore. When Jay and I finally tie the knot I think we are going to put the word out that we would really like gift certificates to Canadian Tire so we can buy lots of camping gear seeing as we have a house that is already pretty much set up so we don't really need house hold appliances, or 20 different bath towel sets lol. I really don't see anything wrong with being specific about what you need, it really saves the stress of having to figure out what a newly wed needs, and saves the newly weds from storing stuff they didn't need. __________________ *I've learned that when you have kids, trying to clean the house is like trying to nail jello to a tree!!!!* *Friendship is like peeing your pants, everyone can see it, but only you can feel the true warmth!!!*

06-06-2006, 10:52 AM	#5
HawaiianPaint Senior Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Colorado Posts: 698 Images: 46 Blog Entries: 24	I have no idea what the actual 'rules' are around it, but personally I'd just work it out with her. If she feels like she'd like to have one then people will always figure out what to bring If she doesn't know, then have her talk to her friends, the ones that would be invited to the shower etc and see what kind of interest there is. There are places that she can register for a honeymoon registry...have people buy them things on their cruise etc instead of actually spending money going to a store to get them another blender. People can always use money right? So gift cards etc or come up with a project that her and her fiance want to work on. My roommate's best friend got married not too long ago and they are building a house so their request was that instead of wedding presents they wanted gift cards to lowes and home depot etc. everyone thought it was a great idea. It kind of takes the pressure and importance off of the gifts and puts it on the couple, getting to know them, having fun at the reception etc. OR in the case of the honeymoon registry, being able to go on a really nice cruise or something instead of what they were planning on.

06-06-2006, 10:55 AM	#7
Peg D Senior Member+ Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 3,423 Images: 491 Blog Entries: 5	Have a passion party. __________________ Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience. Member COL Club- hand over the Oil of Olay and nobody gets hurt!

06-06-2006, 10:56 AM	#8
Thrills Senior Member+ Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 2,880 Images: 402 Blog Entries: 60	these are some great ideas so far! Keep them coming! I would really like to do something nice for her. __________________ Some days you are the dog...some days the hydrant HR director of the FF Club

06-06-2006, 10:56 AM	#9
honeydoozy Senior Member+ Join Date: May 2005 Location: sunny so. california Posts: 1,770 Images: 51	Any excuse for a party, I say! Seriously, you could have a shower, but call it something different maybe. A bridal luncheon? As for gifts, you could pick a theme or something... such as travel, if they're going on a honeymoon, or something that relates to an interest they both share. I once went to something similar for a couple that were both going on their 2nd marriage (and in the "older" category). It was a couples thing, and everyone was encouraged to forego regular gifts, in favor of gift certificates to places - restaurants, theaters, attractions - whatever they thought the couple would enjoy. (and ideally something they haven't done, or haven't done in a while) I thought that was pretty inventive, and it did keep the couple busy for quite a while! ( no excuses not go get out and have FUN, that's for sure!) I definitely think a "get together" is in order - but I think you really need to talk to the bride to see what level of celebration she's most comfortable with.

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